Torn. My daughter getting out of prison after 4 years. Do I let her come home?
My daughter is 28. This is her second time in prison. She will be getting out in 6 months. I am raising her 2 children ages 5 and 10. She was always a "problem child" ever since I can remember. She got caught up in drugs and the whole lifestyle. She had a 5 year old and another on the way when she went in the first time for 1 1/2 years. When she got out then, I tried to make the transition as easy for her as possible. I told her all she had to do was stay clean, and take her time getting used to being home and being a mom. Well,I guess I only accomplished to enable her because she went right back to her old ways and within 6 months I had had all I could take. She was back on drugs, lying, disrespecting me and the rules I made clear. So I kicked her out, She ended up in trouble with the law again and this time got a longer time back in prison. She has been in 4 more years now. I am torn between letting her come home, after all she has done her time. Part of me feels this is the right thing to do, she needs love and support. Part of me also feels that I will be repeating a cycle of enabling her to do the same as before. If she has not changed her ways, this will only do her more harm than good, but more importantly, the kids will be disrupted from their stucture and will be hurt and will not understand if I have to tell mommy to leave again. There is not any half way houses near us, only homeless shelter about an hour away. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am stressed out from thinking on one hand this and on the other hand that!