Tired of taking care of everybody and can't even get any acknowledgment
by C Ann
I have a decent job, my daughter who is 36 lives with me and her 5 y/o daughter. There was a high custody battle that went on for two years, I paid all the legal fees. This pregnancy was out of wedlock and planned. Now my ignorant daughter has been dating an old friend for the past year and he just got out of jail and is on probation for two years, they decided to get pregnant!
My daughter lives with me, I have been supporting my daughter her whole life and my granddaughter since she was born. But it not really about the money, my daughter doesn't even spend time with her 5 y/o, has begun to treat her different since she turned 5 & hooked up with this guy. She is mean, yells and is a bully as a parent at times. I cannot talk to her or it will escalate into an fight and I don't like that around my granddaughter as the child has had a hard enough time adjusting to weekend overnights at daddy's.
I can't stand the though of a new baby in the home and how will my granddaughter feel about that plus on top of it my daughter wants me to let her felony boyfriend move into my home. If I don't then she wants to move out and I can't bare the thought of not being there for my granddaughter. I think all this was manipulated so she can have him move into my house.
My daughter does not hold a steady job and her boyfriends makes good money but it's Seasonal. I think it is emotional blackmail because my daughter know how much I love my granddaughter, she calls me obsessive because I care so much, so I have been trying to detach myself from the child but it's killing me because I live her and just want a stable happy childhood for her.
What should I do? There is so much more to the story. I want her to have an abortion. I can't do this again, wake up for night time feeding, take care of a baby every evening when I get home from work. Now when I get home, I spend my entire evening playing and taking care of my granddaughter while my daughter lays in the bed texting her boyfriend.
Please help, any suggestions?