My son in law needs to grow up at the age of 45.

by Patty
(Lincoln, Ne...usa)

My son in law came to stay with us after day camp prison. He moved from another town to get a new start. He stayed with us until he got a job, and saved for his apartment and a car. Now a year later, he was 3 months behind his rent, and got kicked out. Owing several hundreds of repair. He came to us for a couple of days until he found several friends to take turns crashing in their apartments. Then they all kicked him out and his car was stolened. Probably drug related. So he is back here. He is lazy, and does not help. He did go with his father to help but all he does is sit and play with his phone (Internet). He does have a job, but it was lowered because of lots of being late and not showing up. So now with hundreds of dollars that needs to be pay back, ( taken out of his check), he will never be able to catch up unless he stays with us for another year. He will not get a second job, and he will not take a bus. I need help for this is our retirement age, and I do not want to have to raise this lazy kid. His father will not let him go out on his own in the freezing weather, and I guess I can see that, but I think he needs a taste of being homeless. I need your’s getting to be at a point I might have to leave until he leaves. My nerves are shot.

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Feb 04, 2018
There is help...
by: Don Carter

Hi Patty,

There is help, but these situations rarely get better over night -- it is usually a journey. You will have many decisions to make going forward. If you leave until he leaves, it may be a while if he ever leaves, especially if his father is his chief enabler.

I suggest checking here for feedback from others, read all the posts on this forum, and seek help from a professional who knows about addiction (and yes, phones and the Internet are the newest addictions.)

Again, you are going to be on a journey with this, regardless of whether you stay or go. So learn everything you can about addiction, enabling, and tough love.

Blessings to you,

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