My mother the enabler
My 22 year old brother is a heroin addict. He lives with my mother and she supports him. She buys him clothes and cigarettes. Lets him use her phone and vehicles, and gives him money when he "needs" it. He has stolen property from people we don't know, as well as jewelry and other items from family. He is no longer welcome at several family members homes because of this. My mother constantly defends him and believes him when he says that he didn't do these things.
He was supposed to leave for rehab this Friday but somehow it got pushed back two weeks. When I asked my mother what would happen if he didn't go to rehab on this Friday she said he would be out. Now, it's he will be out in two weeks. It seems he can never do anything that will make her see how far gone he really is. I am having trouble dealing with this. I find that I don't want to be around her because she now lies about his behavior. Is there something I can do to make her see how much she is hurting herself by doing these things?
My brother gets angry very easily now. He has gotten violent with our father. He knocked out one of his teeth. Still my mother takes his side. It has gotten to the point where my dad is ready to leave. I fear that she is addicted to enabling him as much as he is addicted to the drug. What can I do? I feel so lost.