Mom is enabling my siblings and their friends

by Jerry
(Oklahoma)

I am grown and moved out but my mom still has my two younger siblings living with her. One is 17 and the other is 14. My two siblings are always using and selling drugs (mainly marijuana which I understand isn't horrible but they are children) in her house with their friends who are also underage. She is a single mother and is always fighting with the elder of the two and telling me that she just doesn't know what to do with them. Every time I go over and try to spend time with them I have to leave because I don't want to be associated with these children doing these things and don't want to get in trouble with the law. I also don't want my mother to get in trouble with the law but I really can't control her because every time I say that she is enabling or disagree with her parenting or lifestyle choices she flips out and screams at me and makes me leave. I really need to know how to convince her to stop this so that she doesn't get in trouble and my siblings can grow up to be successful where I feel that if this continues they won't have the right upbringing to become successful and achieve their goals. Nothing I've tried so far has worked so any advice would be helpful. I want to be able to spend time with my mother again and have my siblings grow up normally and not get their adult lives started off on the wrong foot. Thanks in advance.

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