Ex husband and my only 2 siblings are all active addicts.
I was married for 20 years. After a 2 year separation, We divorced. During domestic violence counseling, I learned he fits the m.o. of narcissistic personality disorder.
Our children are now 17 & 19. He has been to rehab 3 times, the first time when they were 4 & 6 years old.
He continues to control, manipulate, threaten us in any way he can.
In the mean time, my mother passed away from cancer. My kids were 15 & 17. During the time of my mother's illness, I discovered my oldest brother is an active alcoholic. His words & actions were identical to my ex-spouse's.
I was named the executor of my mother's estate. The attorney said the way the will reads, everything is left to me. I honored my mom's wishes.
My alcoholic older brother is furious. He has threatened & harassed me , exactly like the ex has in the past.
Because Of this, my brother has verbally badgered me and told me I Am no longer in the family..
He abused me when I was young- grade 4 was the first time and he cont intermittently for next 5 years.
My struggle is simply that I (may) appear to others as I am the one with something wrong with me b/c I have no family anymore. And I have not reached out to the extended family.
I have allowed his manipulative words to keep me from maintaining a relationship with them. For my sake & my kid's sake.
My other brother has drug addiction issues since he was 13. He is now 59.
I have held my ground. I feel my job is to take care of my 2 kids.
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