I have learned that when I am in denial, I cannot see that I am. I attend Codependents Anonymous, where I share and listen to others.
Sometimes my denial begins to fade some and I can see things that were in front of me all the time. I am often stunned when I can see something from a different perspective.
I have learned that denial is a protective mechanism such that the brain protects me from information so powerful that I fear I might go off the deep end never to return.
As I am learning more about who is trustworthy and who is not, I find people who will listen, not judge, and only offer advice if I ask for it. Thank God for them!