Consumed & Confused
A few years ago I jumped out of an unloving relationship right into a new relationship. I spent about 6 years with someone that no longer found me attractive & didn't want to touch me. I hung in as long as I could for the sake of my daughter. I finally broke & started seeking the companionship I hadn't had in years. I found someone who was incredibly attracted to me & I fell hard. I now fight the guilt on a daily basis for jumping ship & leaving my 17 year daughter to live with her stepfather & move in with my boyfriend and his 2 sons. I love my boyfriend, and my daughter and I still have a very close relationship. The problem is my boyfriends 23 year son won't take responsibility for his life. He abuses drugs & alcohol, he has stolen from me, his dad & his brother. He can't keep a job and refuses to take one that he feels is beneath him. I witnessed him & his dads fight daily. I helped my boyfriend grow a back bone & through him out. We changed the locks & he kept breaking in for a long time. Finally he found a couple friends to move in with for about a year. He recently moved in again because he claimed he only needed to live with us for a month. I reluctantly agreed. His dad felt like because he lived with friends for a year he had changed. He moved in, didn't follow our rules, lied, said he had a job but didn't, the house never came through and now my boyfriend sent him to his mothers to live. She blames everything on my boyfriend & even tells her son that his dad is responsible for his problems. So when my boyfriend dropped his son off his ex wife played the guilt card and said that there son is depressed & she would help him. So now my boyfriend feels guilty for not helping him. To sum it up, I feel like a complete outsider living in a prison where I am to accept there son the way they accept him. There son has shown me that he is spoiled and feels he is entitled because his dad caused all his problems. I want to pack up & move out & date my boyfriend and live in my own home where I have complete control & I don't have to carry my valuable on me at all times. Financially I'm stuck here & I'm dying inside I feel like a victim & I can't let it go we fight about it daily and I know his son is going to show back up here. Please, I am open to any suggestions to help me out of this situation.