I have a 20 year old SS and a bd they are 3months apart, my husband and I have been together almost 19 years and married 11 of those. Since day one I have always been disrespected by the SS, why I have stayed all these years is # 1 because I love my husband and #2 I guess I thought it would get better.
It has improved at times but it has never really gotten better. Now our children are grown my daughter is married and my SS well let's just say he is still here, still pulling the same stunts and tantrums he has been pulling for all of these years. Recently though it has gotten worse and is now effecting my marriage to his father.
I have always gone out of my way to do things for him the SS but there is never any respect only manipulation, last year he was really sick so being a nurse I quit my job and stayed home and took care of him for nearly six months, got him recovered and then he decided he wanted a jeep and when his dad and I would not get it for him he threw a fit said we do more for my daughter and ect. He cussed us both and was not welcome in our home for nearly 3 months. He has no respect for what we do for him or the sacrifices we have made he only thinks of himself.
It is causing serious problems between his father and I, I have spoken with his mother but she too is part of the enabling picture she was slam him in one breath and kindly defend him in another. I am at a loss I just no longer know what to do, I am so tired of the screaming matches with my husband and sick of always everything having to revolve around Mr. inconsiderate .
I love my husband but I can no longer live with this dismay and constant mood of unhappiness, walking on egg shells waiting for the next storm to blow in... Help