Adult Son Who Molested Our Grandchild
My 40-year-old son has pretty much lived with my husband and I for his entire adult life (left a few times but not more than a total of 3 years since graduating high school). At 34 he had a daughter with a drug-addicted woman who ended up giving him custody. He and our granddaughter shared our house. We paid for all her expenses as well. Any time we had a conflict with him (mostly about responsibilities, getting a job, etc.) he would threaten to find a place and become volatile and of course, he was never at fault. We always caved in for her sake. Six months ago our granddaughter confided in me that he had molested her. We had no other choice but to go to the authorities. We now have custody of her and he is legally not allowed to be around her until she reaches adulthood.
(from the moment she told us and Child Services notified him, he has never spoken with us again - he was notified by Child Services to leave the residence and we have had no contact)
I know it was the correct decision, however, I have so much anxiety and anguish knowing our son is most likely homeless and has nothing. We both accept that we enabled his behaviour and that it was not a health dynamic. My marriage is suffering and we need to be able to support each other emotionally, but I am really torn and constantly thinking of him. How do I get past missing him? I am grieving the loss and I know I shouldn't be.
I went to a therapist for a few months but she could not give me the answer.
We are in our mid-sixties.
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