Adult son stealing from family and mother making excuses
I live with my aunt and her 25 yr.old son.Its a very unhealthy situation.The son steals every thing in sight.HE has taken everything his mother has and is now working on mine.No matter what steps I take to secure my things he always finds a way to get to them.
His mother makes excuse after excuse and blames everyone else but him.I came home from a 3 day vacation to find my heavily pad locked bedroom door opened and his mother lying saying it was her who pried it open. My bedroom window was also opened a crack allowing him to come and go as he wanted. When I asked her what happened the story she came up with was so outlandish I couldn't believe she would even think I would believe it.
I told her I didn't believe her story and she flew in to a rage as always when shes confronted. She kept insisting he was not in my room it was her. I happened to turn on my lap top and there the proof was. He had logged on to face book and didn't log out. She still insisted it couldn't have been him.
He has no limits as to what he will steal,a family heirloom worth 600 dollars he traded for a 50 dollar bag of meth,my coats,shoes,tablet,money,the list is endless.Any thing he sees and he wants he takes.Flashlights,tape,candy piggy-banks any thing.
He took apart the alarm in my car in order to get in to that.She knows he steals from me,one of 2 things will happen,either she will say 'I didn't see him do it or she will yell at him,make a bunch of threats she will never do,at that point they tell each other to F off they both go the there bedrooms come out a hr. later like nothing happened.
I tell her until you do something different he wont do anything different,why should he,he lives here rent free,doesn't do a thing around here except make messes that he doesn't clean up,eats everything in sight,sleeps all day,up all night,she does his laundry and buys his beer and cigarettes.Really why change anything when life's so good?
Im so sick and tired of watching the same thing happen time and time again with no consequences of his behavior.What should I do?I really want her to understand she is enabling him to do what he does.If you try to talk to her about it she fly's in to a rage and then tries to flip it on you and attacks your parenting skills pointing out your child's flaws,as small as they may be.I have tried to talk to him nicely,rudely,every way. I have begged him to stop,I have wrote him letter
I've tried everything I can think of to no avail. Also he has been through 2 inpatient treatment programs,no help there either. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent