Wife the enabler

by Kevin Luing
(Hooper, Utah)

My wife is the enabler to her kids, I'm the step dad. I have been married two years and
have been trying to tell her that she is not helping the kids. They need to take full
responsibility for there actions and all financial matters. You need to stop paying the car, insurance, cell phones and giving them cash.

Now, as of 5/5/10 we find out that both the kids
are addicted to drugs. We have started with parenting programs as well as Al Anon. This is all new at this time. I feel that my wife will still continue to pay for things while they get
help and look for a job. However, I feel that if she continues why would they go look for a
job? Every thing would still be the same, kids would say "every things paid why do I need a job?"

I know it's hard on my wife however, there is no better time than the present to start saying
"NO" ! I love my wife to death however, I will not be a part of her enabling "her" kids any
longer. They are 25 and 27 years old. It's time for them to grow up!

If I'm wrong would someone please let me know ????