Wife in name only

by Rela
(San Bernardino CA)

I have been married 25 years to a man that uses drugs, drinks(I don't) we do not sleep together. we have a 14 year old son that I adore, that he brought into our marriage. we don't do anything together or as a family. I feel I love him but I don't like him anymore. I am scared of being alone after 25 years with him. We are separated now, it has only been one week and I don't know what to do.

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Sep 27, 2011
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you are not alone
by: Leesa Rene Gilliland

Thanks for posting that...I too am a wife in name only....it`s time we both are able to sign our letters as, ``Happy, content and peaceful`` You are not alone.

Mar 24, 2011
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by: Angie Carter

Thanks for posting what is happening with you. Living with someone who has addiction can really erode the family and cause a person to loose a "sense of self". Sometimes it seems easier to just put up with it than to explore other unknown options.

Fear can keep people locked down into what is familiar even though it may be unhealthy. I would recommend seeking out a support group, preferably 12-step based, so that you can begin to explore your own inner landscape and figure out who you are and what you want to do about your situation. These programs have helped me immensely.

Good luck to you! Remember, you are not alone and there are a lot of people going through the same kinds of situations that you are in.

Angie Carter

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