Whats the best way to help someone heal these abandonment issues

My son is 14 years old and his mother doesnt contribute to the parenting very often and when she does I feel its hollow and counter productive. Weeks without calling and blaming him for the lack of a relationship with her is a few of "parental contributions". I believe its affecting his grades and self esteem. How can I nuetralize these types of effects?

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May 26, 2011
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Yes, you can make a difference...
by: Don

You cannot neutralize the abandonment, shame & contempt -- but you can dilute it by providing a counter-example and being there in healthy ways.

This does not mean trying to make up for the pain by doing too much...it just means being there, meeting his needs, providing good role modeling, and teaching good values and beliefs about self, others, and the world in general.

Of course, seeking spiritual growth together can make a HUGE difference!

God Bless,
Don

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