What about Bob?
I have a brother named Bob. He is 50 years old.
For the last 25 years he has been on drugs, alcohol and a mess. He ruined my parents business years ago and left them penniless in their retirement years.
He has had many apartments where he would not pay rent, trash the place and then get kicked out.
a couple of years ago he came back into the picture after breaking his back and did not have any one else to turn to. My mother and other brother helped find him a room to recover in.
He seemed to be getting better, and my other brother decided to have him help with a rental he was fixing up after a fire. Bob is very talented with construction skills.
Well, he is also very slow and does not have a drivers license due to unpaid fines. He got kicked out of the place he was living (which we helped him find) and my other brother let him move into the rental house he was fixing up. It took him a year to get it to where my other brother could get a loan on it and re-rent it. Bob really wanted to live in it at that time and assured my other brother he could pay the 700 rent every month. So he stayed.
Now a year later, he has not paid a full months rent, and most of the rent he does pay is from jobs where he does something for me and I pay my other brother directly. He has trashed the house, he always says he will do something and most of the time does not do it. My mother has such a soft spot in her heart for him that she just believes he is not so bad.
So now I see him hurting my other brother, and my mother. He lies with every word, but for some reason he is believed. He drives without a drivers license my mothers vehicle sometimes, and more often that I want to admit. But she won't stop him. She doesn't know how. He lives very close to her and has keys. She says he needs to take it to get a job. but he doesn't ever pay rent with whatever job he has.
I feel he is getting worse every day, I don't know what he does with his time, and he collects junk and my brother gets notices from police for trash around house all the time.
But we have no clue where he will go when he gets evicted, and so it is so hard to do the next step. Please help us see through the closeness of the situation.