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Dec 30, 2009
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Diagnosis?
by: Anonymous

I wouldn't worry about those things. I'd focus on talking about how you can both be ecstatically happy with each other.

Dec 29, 2009
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Only you can answer that...
by: mxkx

I think that's a question that no one but the person asking it can really answer. However, this would be a very good question to bring up to your therapist. Then you can work together to figure it out, with your therapist helping you find the right questions to ask yourself to discover on your own whether or not you are codependent.

I can relate to being worried about the next time your husband is going to forget his vows. My husband has been unfaithful in the past as well, and we have been working on the trust thing for a while. I think what has been helping me more than anything on trusting him is knowing that he is in therapy and is really trying to quit not through will power alone but through actually changing himself from within so that he is no longer tempted at all.

It also helped me a lot to realize that I did not NEED him nor did I deserve someone that would do that sort of thing and that I deserve a healthy, faithful relationship. I'm willing to stay with him as long as he is making the effort to initiate REAL change but if he drops that I am not willing to deal with a lifetime of "slip ups" when his will power fails him, nor should I.

I wish you all the best with your situation and hope that you both find the answers you're looking for.

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