http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/subconscious-mind-blog.html The Subconscious Mind Blog will keep you consciously aware of updates and additions to the Internet-of-the-Mind website. Subscribe here. en-us replace this text with keywords seperated by comma except none at the end Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:23:49 GMT Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:23:49 GMT internet-of-the-mind.com http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/Thaw.html New EBook Thaw, by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW, is about the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a dysfunctional family. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:23:49 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/emotionally-abused.html This is the 8th year of our marriage. I am quickly realizing that this was the biggest mistake I have ever made - getting married (maybe to this man). Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:53:33 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/joyful-world.html I know that underlying all this pain is a joyful world of celebration and love. Why does it keep disappearing? I feel alone. I am alone. I take care Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:51:55 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/this-is-pointless.html What is the point of expressing oneself when there are no replies to our posts or any sort of help at all Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:51:19 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/when-will-it-stop.html Kinda nervous. :) I just turned 48,female, youngest(twin),6 of us all together, oldest 58. I can honestly say I think my family has cornered the market Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:50:59 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/finally-admitting-enabling-adult-daughter.html After 3 years of caring for my daughter's children, having relocated, left job and used all savings, she found new man who is mean to her children. I told Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:48:14 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/life-is-not-fair-but-as-the-cliche-goes-the-show-must-go-on.html So, I found this site as I have been recently trying very hard to understand all the inner critics that I deal with on-going, inside myself, and am so Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:47:45 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/subconscious-mind-blog.html#Thaw-Makes-Amazon-Best-Seller-List! After only nine weeks on Amazon, my Book <b>Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings</b> is #28 on the Best Seller List for Codependency. Please write a review if you have already read the book. Thanks Everyone! Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:01:24 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/lost-in-the-crowd-and-the-family-dramas.html I am exhausted - finally after 53 years totally exhausted by the family dysfunction, anger and dramas. I am one of 6 children, the only girl and the oldest. Mon, 16 Jan 2012 07:26:46 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/concerned-about-newphews-and-neices-daily-cares-abuse-and-emotional-health.html My brother is an addict and has mental illness. He is unable to take care of himself and is financially over $200,000 in debt and that is since he filed Mon, 16 Jan 2012 07:23:49 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/mad-and-sad.html my husband just walked in with his 13 year old granddaughter,to my surprise. She towed a very large suitcase to my spare bedroom.Then walks his adopted Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:04:23 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/i-want-to-learn-more-about-relationships.html I am new in a relationship.we've been in it for some months now and things are going on well but we have lots of misunderstandings.Its been too much but Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:03:36 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/2012-the-year-of-me.html I am 64 years old. All of my life I have felt different, unloveable, isolated and lonely. I grew up an only child. My father and mother were the best Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:03:14 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/my-life-in-a-concentration-camp-only-it-was-called-home.html My earliest memory was when I was 3 yrs. old. Seems hard to believe I can remember that far back.I think that may be why its so hard to move forward in Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:02:54 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/abandonment-then-and-now.html Gosh so many of us struggling to work it all out. In my case, an emotionally abusive childhood with a manipulative mother who desperately wanted to be Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:02:20 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/thank-you1.html I am so grateful to be reading this at this point in my life. I am in fact thawing, and the pain from my childhood is coming up regularly at work, interfering Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:01:46 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/as-a-child.html I am beginning to dissect the pain and abandonment of my childhood. I was only 11 when my mother, father and 10yr old sister were killed instantly in Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:01:00 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/abandonment-issues2.html I am feeling very emotional, I realize I am mostly an internalizer, so that means I keep things to myself, but I am in emotional pain, and it has been Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:00:43 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/when-does-helping-stop-and-enabling-begin.html Approximately 2 months ago my mid-40's brother was diagnosed with cancer. Knowing that employment had been unstable for many years and my brother and his Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:00:00 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/my-46-year-old-husband-runs-home-to-his-mother-whenever-i-confront-him-about-his-drinking.html my 46 year old husband keeps running home to his mother especially after any confrontation about his drinking.we also have a four year old daughter whom Sat, 14 Jan 2012 07:59:14 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/discovering-the-power-of-selfawareness-trying-to-figure-it-all-out.html My mother was absent, my father an abusive alcoholic. My older brother the responsible child and I was the lost child. I had intense hate that consumed Sat, 14 Jan 2012 07:58:44 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/serenity-series-mp3.html Serenity Series MP3 are available for download or direct shipping. Fri, 30 Dec 2011 05:31:09 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/i-dont-want-to-wreck-my-life-again.html Ok. So I have been trying very hard to deal with myself for a few years now. I've hit a roadblock and find myself reverting to unhealthy behaviours. I Fri, 16 Dec 2011 14:34:35 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/can-time-heal-old-wounds.html I'm 49 yrs old and my mom abandoned my siblings and me when I was 10.5yrs old. Lately, I have been very depressed and have thoughts of suicide. I feel Tue, 13 Dec 2011 12:47:16 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/my-wife.html My wife has been addicted to opiates/heroin for 6 years. During the first few years of our marriage, I was deployed overseas in the Army. She did stick Tue, 13 Dec 2011 12:46:00 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/adapted-child-ego-state-awareness.html I have been looking at the ego state map, and It is getting so clear what has been happened to me recently. I know I am grieving about my dad dying just Tue, 13 Dec 2011 12:43:37 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/love-my-sister-too-much.html Realizing what an enabler I really am. My sister is an alcoholic, I'm a recovering drug addict who still drinks occasionally, my dad is an alcoholic (dry Tue, 29 Nov 2011 13:58:03 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/wife-abused-as-a-child-just-left-with-no-warning-its-over-i-dont-love-you.html My wife (30 yrs old) is absolutely an externaliser as Don describes-she was emotionally, physically and sexually abused by her parents as a preteen. She Sun, 27 Nov 2011 18:27:36 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/taking-my-anger-out-on-my-new-boyfriend.html I have just met a great guy after being single for 3 years. I know hes amazing because we talk about everything, and omg list goes on. I have realised Sun, 27 Nov 2011 18:26:53 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/i-say-no-and-cave-when-it-comes-to-my-19-year-old-son.html I completely relate to what Felicia wrote about her 20 year old son and felt some relief to see a similar experience except my son isn't as functioning Sun, 27 Nov 2011 18:18:20 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/mother-enabling-with-food-and-money.html My beau gets drunk and his mom does nothing and never has no matter what my pleads are i have been so desperate and she hangs up on me and then she buys Sun, 27 Nov 2011 18:14:48 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/free-binaural-beat.html Free Binaural Beat Programs from Internet-of-the-mind.com Sat, 26 Nov 2011 17:01:00 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/i-am-scared-to-live-scared-of-who-i-am-not-you-cant-see-me.html That little blonde girl with the finger curls cocking her head to the side with a faint smile and sky blue eyes - looks so sweet and adorable - so why Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:37:50 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/recovering-from-co-dependence.html My sister left a message that my dad died today. The problem is that I have never been close to my dad. They got divorced when I was 4 years old. He has Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:33:19 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/critical-parent-3rd-order-state-vs-parent-1st-order-state.html Great site! Please help me understand the difference between the 1st order Parent ego state and the 3rd order Critical parent ego state. Thanks so much! Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:24:29 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/oh-the-agony-of-the-moment.html So I was drawn here, 4 years ago I met with a counselor and during one of our sessions she effortlessly said you have abandonment issues and was on to Tue, 22 Nov 2011 14:00:13 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/i-relate-to-the-whole-abandonment-syndrome.html I have been battling this all my life. There are many abandonment issues as a child, Dad went into service the day I was born and was gone for 15mo. Then Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:58:08 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/23-year-old-son-and-mom.html My son could get partial unemployment, but he says he would have to go through too much to apply. I carry all the bills and he doesn't pay towards anything. Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:55:01 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/abandonment-at-childhood.html Now 43 years old, just had an affair and through the exploration of why, how etc. I have discovered that there is some core issues linked to childhood Tue, 15 Nov 2011 14:50:49 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/a-marriage-of-18-years-with-abandonment-issues.html My wife and I have been married for 18 years, we both grew up with abandonment issues, her mother left her from the age of 12 and I lost both my parents Tue, 15 Nov 2011 14:50:01 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/where-to-start-life-is-good-but-i-know-i-need-help-with-this-issue.html I have been through so many forms of abuse that at times I really don't know how I've dealt with it all. I'm married to a man that also suffered a lot Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:21:43 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/sober-for-two-years-without-ever-feeling-like-drinking-again.html I have trained my conscious mind to replace any romantic thoughts of drinking with pain and destruction reminders. It is very easy for me to stay sober Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:54:01 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/see-the-future-in-your-dreams.html The great psychic Ed Cayce in one of his psychic readings said whatever happens to us is dreamed first. How about programming people to remember their Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:45:05 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/im-defective.html Here's my life in short form. 1-5 years old: Spent every waking second with my very affectionate, loving, downright amazing mother who has been through Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:26:27 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/today-i-feel.html Too tired to read watch tv, beyond hate my mother want to kill my sister, seriously craving going in to the sea for good. Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:22:44 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/lack-of-understanding-and-communication.html We have been married for 3 years and of those 3 years, 2 of them were after my brain tumor craniotomy. And yes, I myself have a lack of communication as Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:19:33 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/do-i-have-abandonment-issues.html I'm 15 almost 16 and I started noticing that when I'm alone I get very angry and lonely, it's not just boredom, when I get home from school no ones here, Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:18:06 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/help1.html At the ago of 8, I came to the US with my father and siblings. My mother stayed in behind with her mother. At that moment, I felt some degree of abandonment Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:17:34 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/help-for-a-husband-who-is-a-selfish-coldhearted-bleep.html I am going into my 20th year with a woman 10 yrs my senior. I am 43. She was adopted at 6 mos of age to work a holic parents. Her dad is very nice, yet Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:17:05 GMT http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/enabling-our-21-year-old-son-to-become-a-professional-cyclist.html My son has always been the sporty type and he is really focused on becoming a professional cyclist. We are proud he has a focus and wants to follow his Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:14:37 GMT