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Sep 03, 2010
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Re-Decide
by: Don

It sounds like your mother gave you an implied message that it would be better if you did not exist. Infants can get that message even without words. This is bad programming and it can get embedded in the neural networks of the mind as an instruction to cease to exist (die).

But even the mind of a child can figure out a way to survive parental injunctions such as don't exist. In your case it sounds like your creative "Little Professor" (aka the subconscious mind) helped you develop a survival strategy that goes something like this... "If I am invisible, then I don't have to die".

But in your adult life all of that is buried very deep so that all you are aware of is a bad feeling when people "see you". Making a decision from you adult self, with the help of a Transactional Analysis practitioner or gestalt therapist can help you do that.

To learn more about "bad programming" check out the link of the same title on the left side of this page.

Take care and keep us informed!
Don Carter

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