Stressing Triangle of Love
I am a mother of three sons, that have always gave me problems growing up. I have one that has isolated himself in my home for going on five years now. He worked and did help with living cost for the first year and some the second. However, for the last three years I have supported him and his daughter while he donated plasma and drank his money up. To keep peace for the baby and myself I only tried to discuss his behavior from time to time. He gets angry and loud trying to over talk me and says things trying to make it seem like I am a nag. I know what he is doing and I don't believe him, but I get no where each time. He will act like this in front of his daughter. I have explained to him that her mis- behavior is a direct reflection of the way she seems him treat me. He says it is because she sees the way I treat him, by telling him ways to live responsibly. I try to discuss things with him quietly but he starts throwing his arms in the air and talking hateful to me. He doesn't stop to even listen..he thinks or says he does anyway, feels like me and his working brother are down on him because we try to motivate him. I believe he has created a disorder of some sort, by all the drinking. I tell him he needs a check up and he will not even respond. I think he could gets disability at this point in his life.. I am tired of supporting him and directing him on how to raise his daughter. I love her dearly and will raise her if need be, but I am tired of raising him. His mind is like maybe a 17 yr old. Her mother is on drugs and only sees her a few times a year for a couple of days each year. This is the reason I have been so patient with my son. What wold you do?