Spouse got away with murder in ministry

Spouse would'nt get a job while in school to be a youth pastor. Just mooched off the savings I had brought into the marriage. Retirement account is all gone now. Spouse never able to get on his feet in ministry due to immaturity issues. Meanwhile all savings are gone and we have nothing to show for it. I wasted my time trying to be a helpmate but am realizing I was only an enabler. Spouse still is trying to find the perfect job. I need to get a life that is not wrapped around him. I need to stop listening to his poor pitiful me stories. I need to start developing me. Who know if he's coming or going or can ever really be trusted after all the betrayal. He made everyone the bad guy and it just lest me alone and isolated. No more of that baloney. No more ministry for me. I need to stand up for myself and he can make his own choices. I wouldn't wand my daughters treated like this. I have never seen such an immature man in my life. And I was fool enough to marry him. After 14 years of marriage he has finally looked at our finances. Why do I have to tell a grown man to grow the hell up, pull your weight at home, quit wining, get along with others and oh yeh, be faithful and trustworthy and even reliable. Is that to much to ask?

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