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Jan 29, 2012
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I cant stop crying
by: AnonymousTB

Thank you I now know what i need to do. Please pray for me to stay strong. My son will get out of treatment in about 5 weeks.

May 03, 2011
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SELFISH people give addicts too much!
by: Anonymous

Very so to here of your loss! I fear my 18 year old my be doomed to the same future. My mother is like your step-son's mother and step-father, SELFISH. Too worried about how your step-son's situation made them feel, rather than what it was doing to him, enabling them!

Being that you begged them not to do this, and I assume, explained why, I suppose you did what you could. Not very comforting though, I would bet.
My son left home at 18 and hit rock bottom 5 long months later. He was going to do a 30-day in-patient rehab program and agreed to do out-patient after that and sign a paper saying his dad and I could see his drug test results. He was only willing to this because he was being kicked out of his apartment and had no job and the living in a dump was getting to him. He asked to come home.

The next day my parents took him out to dinner because they knew how depressed and upset he had become. I called him a few hours later to see how he was feeling (worried about the depression) and he had a party going and informed me he wouldn't be doing any drug programs afterall because my parents said he could live with them.
Parents said they had only offered him to stay a couple of days while the in-patient program was being setup. I told them what he had told me, but that I believed they had only offered a couple day stay and they should let my son know this wasn't a long term thing.

Well, it's a month later, mom is buying his cig.'s, giving him food and free rent, not drug program has started, and she's got him a laywer to get him out of the drug charge he got after being there only a week.

Yeah, my husband and I are the bad ones just like you and yours. The nerve of us wanting help for our son's at the risk it could make them upset. After all, we could be selfish like them, but maybe they are just so damn selfish they need all the credit for killing them.

If you are reading this and you are an enabler, get honest with yourself and stop!

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss and scared to death it will be my son next. You and your son will be in my prayers tonite!

Jul 23, 2010
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Thanks...
by: Anonymous

My condolences... I think this is a good testimonial/memorial for your step-son. If someone else reads this and it makes a difference, then his passing is not necessarily in vain.

Let's pray others get the message.

Don

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