recovery stories

by Darlene
(Victoria, BC)

Hi there: I'm interested in sharing success stories with other people. How we've overcome self-destructive patterns and how our lives are getting better. Certainly support when we struggle should also be part of the correspondance too. I'm an old timer, and I'd like to know if anyone else out there would like to share in the way I've described. I have a CODA group near me, but it doesn't meet my needs. Anyone?

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Apr 25, 2012
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Recovery Stories-part one-what went wrong
by: Darlene

My parents, both from emotionally, sexually and physically abusive familes, both of them abandonned had me when they were both very young. My mother 17 and my father was 20 and fresh out of the army. I grew up with them fighting all the time, him beating her, beating me, being sexually inapproriate with me, and being very clear that they didn't want me there or each other. I remember bein afraid of my father most of the time, wanting his affection, but being disgusted by him. He and my mother felt like strangers to me. We had neighbours whose children killed our cat's kittens in crazily inventive ways while we were gone on vacation. We ourselves seemed to have pets die on us. There were a few animals buried in the back yard. I saw horror films and other things I shouldn't have. My parents separated when I was eight.
My babysitters were sometimes sexually abusive and when I stopped having babysitters at the age of eight, I was introduced to a sexual predator who took me out for dinner, paid attention to me and sexually molested me for six months . I told my motet and she did nothing. So I stopped it.
After that I was sexually abused occasionally by various people. In my teens my mom and I fought every day, and when I was fourteen she told me I could do whatever I wanted as long as I was with my 21 year old alcoholic boyfriend. She left when I was 17. Our relationship continued to be terrible until I stopped seeing her when I as 28 and
started recovery. My father and I have been estranged since 1991.

Apr 24, 2012
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Great Idea
by: Don

Hi Darlene,

Will you get us started by sharing your a chapter or two of your story first?

Don

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