Question?? Chronic lateness...

by Elena
(WI)

It seems that all over the internet there are "hypnotherapy CDs", and theories about what is going on subconsciously for just about every "patho-behavior" except mine - I am chronically late. It is not situational; i.e. "I don't like my job so I'm late".

I am late to things that as far as I "know", I consciously really am excited about. Its not just oversleeping (which I sometimes do). I can have HOURS to get ready to leave for something, more than adequate time than needed; but I will find things that "need" to be done to fill up... and "overflow" the space.

Any "conscious" behavioral techniques I have tried: i.e. timers, strict schedules, "check-in" with friend; haven't helped (I just ignore them). Every day I vow I am going to be early to every timed appointment/event; and every day I am late to all.

Obviously this is being driven by some subconscious process. I wasn't always like this. It has slowly developed over the past 10 years (I'm mid-40), but now has worsened to the point of causing chaos in my life. My job is in jeopardy, and this is caused strain in every important relationship in my life.

I don't see any positive "hook", unless my subconscious sees being homeless, penniless, friendless, and family-less a good thing! Why am I doing this? And, more importantly; how do I stop?

Does anyone have any experience with this; or any ideas, suggestions????

Thank you,

And take your time!

E.