Proud of doing the right thing.

by Allan
(Charlotte, NC)

I am a 51 yr old male. I have 4 children. My eldest son is from my first marriage. He is and has been a problem his entire life. His mother and I divorced when he was 10 due to her infidelity issues. I remarried to a wonderful person who is amazing in every way. We have 3 children together and they are wonderful.

When my eldest was 15 I walked away from him. He was abusing his 3 younger siblings and I stopped it asap and sent him to live with his mother. Because of his horrible behavior I felt it was best to keep him away from his siblings for safety reasons. I did not see him for 14 yrs. They were 14 quiet yrs. wonderful years.

So 2 yrs ago he comes back into our lives. With a lot of thought and prayer we let him become a part of our family. He is 32 now with 2 little girls 7 and 6. The mother of the girls is in prison for having a meth lab in her home that her girls lived in. He is exactly the same as he was when he was 16. Won't work (does not live with us) and moves constantly due to his inability to pay his bills. Constantly wanting to bum anything. Car, money, tools, you name it. His 3 younger siblings want nothing to do with him. Every word out of his mouth is a lie. And he never returns or pays back anything.

So today I had enough. I gave him his last chance. No more. I'm not looking for advice, and I have no problem with criticism. So what am I doing here? Well if I can protect my family from another family member who is abusive, even at the cost of excommunicating them from the family then so be it. I save 3 children my wife my self and my marriage.

So what I'm saying is anyone can do it. I feel as though justice has been served. I welcome all comments. Positive or not. Thank you for your time.

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