I'm the pastor of a small parish and one of our elders is a woman who has major control issues. She's very good at manipulating every situation to make it about her somehow and she's involved in EVERYTHING. As she ages, she's becoming more controlling as her abilities to manage her life diminish. She's using every trick in the book to get me to take care of her in a variety of ways and even her children are part of this drama. Yes, it's all about boundaries and I am trying very hard to make/keep clean and clear boundaries with her but she's good....I'm pretty beat up and exhausted today and just needed to blow off some steam....thanks.