over 40 years and less than ever!
I am married for 41 years. My wife and I live like roommates rather than a couple. Over the last 30 years I have asked her to attend marriage counselling with me but she has consistently refused- not in so many words; but with declarations like "I have no more to give" or, "I can't see how our marriage could be any better".
We share almost no activities. She has told me that she does not trust nor respect me. She has admitted that she is not interested in my interests, what I am doing, thinking etc. We have NO intimacy- intellectual, emotional or physical. The only thing my wife has admitted that she wants is "not to be alone".
I am tired of being alone. My greatest frustration is my total failure to make her happy. While she often laughs at me, we almost never laugh together like our first seven years.
The estrangement began with the birth of our first child 35 years ago. It degenerated to continual fighting (verbal) and arguing. About 20 years ago we began to get burned out and now we live in a tired truce.
I have bought books on marriage renewal; relationship rescue etc. My wife simply scoffs at them.
What to do?????