Need to stop enabling

I am recently divorced and am living with my 19 year old daughter. My exhusband, though never diagnosed as an alcoholic, drank alot and was mostly absent as a father. I have come to realize that I was not a good mother to my children as I always ran to the rescue and never let them learn how to deal with problems themselves. My son has learned in spite of me and is now a marine and married. He is doing very well. However, my daughter is completely dependant on me. She never does anything to help around the house and only likes going out shopping and spending money. I realize that this is because I always give in and never made her do chores or anything. My question is, how do I stop enabling and get her to live independantly? Most of the things that I read about are for people that enable drug addicts and alcoholics. I need to know how to let go, step back and let my daughter grow up and become independant.

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Apr 24, 2012
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by: Don

Hi,

I have discovered that many times the solution lies within the problem...Your post clearly demonstrates the truth in that principle.

Here in your own words is what you need to do:

"...I need to know how to let go, step back and let my daughter grow up and become independent."

AND, here is HOW to do it:

"... let go, step back and let my daughter grow up and become independent."

I couldn't have said it any better!
Don

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