My son suffers from General Anxiety Disorder- His father said I've enabled him.

by Kardisean
(fairfax, va US)

My son is now suffering from GAD and social phobia. He grew up from two households, whenever he comes home from his father, he was always angry at his dad and his girlfriend. I knew then that this issues with his dad would create psychological problems in the future. So- I devoted all my time and attention to him, I tried being the loving mother and father for him.

I did not date nor seen anyone, so that he will never feel that both his father and I are splitting our love and attention from him. He grew up very mischievous, always in trouble at school. Now he is 21, he is suffering from a severe GAD, he refuses to drive as he is very terrified.

His father blames me for all what he is suffering now. I just want for my son to received the love
he needed, however, I do not want him to be dependent at me at this point. He left home three
years ago, I thought that would help him mature.

He wants to come home now and stay with me,
where he feels safer than if he lived in a dorm. He does not have real person friends, all he
does is to chat with strangers from the computer. He is seeing a therapist. Is it really my fault for enabling him? I also feel guilty.