My husband's fifty one and fifty two year old daughters still come to him for money

I am married to a man who has two daughters from a previous marriage. They are fifty-one and fifty-two years old. Both are divorced and each has a teen age daughter.

The problem is that every time they get into a financial bind they come to their father for money. They very seldom visit him unless they are begging for money. One just recently had a car wreck and the car was totaled but the insurance paid for the car but did not give her enough to purchase another car. My husband comes home and says that he has to go car shopping with her. I immediately asked why she could not go and get a car by herself since she is an adult. He stated that she did not know anything about buying a car. So it ended up with him giving her fifteen hundred dollars towards the purchase of a new car and he went with her to select the car.

This is money that she does not have to repay. As a matter of fact, whenever she is given money even if she asks for a loan, she does not have to pay back the money. I keep telling my husband that she will never learn to do things for herself or find solutions if he is always there giving her a helping financial hand. My husband has told me that I do not have any say so over what he does for his children.

The second problem is related to the first. My husband never appreciates what I do for him but his grown children can buy him a dollar T-shirt and you would think that they gave him the best present in the world. All of the presents that I give him are never used by him and he always complains that they are cheap or not of good quality. He never tells me that I look nice but the moment they come over begging he rants and raves telling them how pretty they are. Anything that they do, he thinks is great. Anything that I do is taken for granted.