my girlfriend says she loves me ,but she is an addict

I've been dating a girl since Sept and when i met her she was in the bible recovering from substance abuse. she says she loves me and I'm the best thing she has ever had. the first of the year after being sober for two weeks she begged for something to drink. i enabled her to get it so she wouldn't go out into the streets. she went on a month and a half drug and drinking binge. she got sick again and called me to carry to ER and she stayed in hospital for a week and 3 days out started doing crack again. this relationship has really been a drag on my life. she says she hasn't did anything thing with anybody for drugs, but her friends and others says she has. I've done all I can do to help her. I have a real problem saying no. the girl really acts like she cares for me but how can she when she does the things that she does.

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Mar 07, 2011
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Unfortunate but usually true...
by: Anonymous

There may be a part of her that loves you and wants to live happily every after. But as the record indicates, THAT PART is NOT in control of her. An addiction dictates her thoughts, her feelings, her behavior, and yes, even her words.

If you have trouble saying no, then you have issues that need your attention. When we "cannot do what we know we need to do" then WE are NOT in control either -- although we really try to be! This indicates that you are just as addicted to her as she is to drugs -- she can't say no either!

Please reach out to a 12-step group, therapist, or church group and take care of yourself.

All my best and may you find recovery soon,

Don Carter

Feb 28, 2011
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She's unsing you
by: Anonymous

Hi,
You know what you need to do, so do it. Drop her like a hot potato.

She knows a good thing when she finds it and in my opinion she is using you to get what she craves. Please don't enable her any more and get out now while the getting out is good.

God bless you and give you the strength to do what you need to do.

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