My brother is an alcoholic, and our mother is the enabler

by wendy
(Az)

My brother is an alcoholic, and our mother is the enabler. He is 41 years old, married with a four year old daughter. He has been drinking since he was 15 years old. I have stayed away from him for the majority of my life. I moved to AZ to be near my mom, she had a heart attack and was in a bad marriage. So, for almost three years I have been trying to help my mother but she is constantly bailing him out of trouble. She defends his behavior, always saying he has a disease. He has spent all of her retirement money over $48, 000. He has stole credit cards, wrecked cars, lived in a motel for almost a year, you name it he has done it to our family. He recently drove intoxicated with my three year old grandson. That was it for me, I called the police but he was gone before they got there. I refuse to have any contact with him. I will not answer his calls, or text. I am done, forever. My mother continues to defend him and my question is should I not have contact with my mother? I have told her I don't want to be near my brother, or hear any of his drama. I love my mom, but she continues to allow him to hurt everyone else in our family. Please advice?

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Dec 14, 2016
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same
by: Anonymous

The last comment is my life too except my bro is in his late 20s

Nov 12, 2013
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Im so sorry
by: Anonymous

I am going thru something VERY similar. Even worse, my mother thinks I am terrible because I will have nothing to do with my awful brother who takes advantage of her and that I have "given up" on him and he is an angel who is special and needs help. I am the bad guy, and somehow he is the good one. Its terrible. I love my mother too and want her in my life, but I cant feel judged by her and deal with their drama. It is so hard. U understand.

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