My 30 year old brother is an addict and my mother is an enabler...
He started smoking weed when he was an early teenager and now he's addicted to oxycodin and i think heroin too. For years my mother has been helping with his rent,prescriptions,a new car here and a new car there, money to feed his kids, and God knows what else.
My mother is so attached to him that she literally spent her last dollar on him. 11 months ago she left her husband of about 13 years, to move to Florida to be by him. So on a whim she loaded her van and left. We live in Michigan and that's where she moved from.
I tried to tell her before she moved that he was an addict, but she didn't want to believe anything I said. He told me about him selling drugs and when he ran out of oxycodin he would go to a drug house and get some.
Last week she called my sister and said "Please you gotta come get me." So my sister spent her rent check and her next check and $600.00 from us and flew down the next day. What she found when she got there was horrific. My mother looked terrible, another week and she would probably have been dead. She is 78 years old and she was sitting in the dark. Her electric had been shut off, she had no food, and no money. He had taken her for everything. She had written a bad check for rent, maxed out 5 credit cards, was 2 months behind on her medical insurance and her car insurance. He even has the nerve to call her on her way back up here from jail and ask her for her next SS check to get him out.
She is now living with my sister but thinks she's going back to Florida when she gets some money up. When my sister cleaned out her apt. she found a bowl of syringes in the kitchen and my mom said the his dr. told him to shoot the oxys into his hand. No way a dr. is going to tell you to do that. Since oxys are synthetic heroin, I think it more likely that he is shooting heroin, you couldn't crush the pills up enough to get them into the needle.
I'm going to my sisters on Mothers Day and I'm going to print this letter off and info about enabling. Maybe if she sees it in writing it will help. Other than that I don't know what to do.
For some reason she thinks she's going to be his Savior or something. He's 30 and needs to grow up and get a job so he can take care of his family and himself. He would never go into rehab, but he sure needs to go. I used to be an addict, but I never could have used my parents like that.