middle aged adult male still living at home

How do you tell someone that this arrangement is just not ok, and there is definate family issues going on needs to cut the apron strings, unable to lead a proper responsible adult life and be self sufficient all through possible enabling controlling behaviours. Very sad situation all round.

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May 06, 2016
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It's a conundrum...
by: Anonymous

My 21 yr old daughter and her 25 yr old boyfriend are living with me. Neither one has a job or has had one in the 4yrs this has been going on. My daughter is obese and has suffered illness's as well as depression. This runs in her family. The boy is also obese, and although I have no idea his family health, I do know he's suffered great traumas in his life which have undoubtedly left scars. I love these kids and feel deeply for them, there lies the issue. My friends and family tell me the boy is using me and brainwashing my daughter. They tell me I'm taking away from my daughter by supporting him, creating guilt. Sadly they make me question my own judgement. I am far from rich barely make enough to keep a roof much less spoil the kids, I'm currently thinking of severing all ties and moving somewhere new to silence the shit.

Oct 29, 2013
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we are enablers to our 34 year old son
by: Anonymous

He has been living with us for past four years. No job, no desire to work. We provide all his needs. We helped him get his license, but we refuse to provide transportation. He gets funds for smokes by donating Plasma once or twice a week. He is always having something ailing him. Anything involving labor he's in pain and can't work. He can't live by himself always with someone. He is what we call a moocher. His addiction is his brothers prescriptions for Autism. Pills missing. We have been locking them up denying access. We have made it to where he has no where to go.
Rick P.

Jan 09, 2013
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Unable?
by: Don

Unable is a powerful word. How do you know this person is unable to live an adult life on their own? If there is no formal diagnosis to substantiate this, then enabling is definitely at work here.

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