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Nov 21, 2009
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And the Beat Goes On...
by: Don Carter

Hi M.R. -- I have read this post a few times now. Let me begin by saying I get a strong sense that you feel stuck on a merry-go-round and have no idea how you got on it or how to get off of it.

When I say "getting off the merry-go-round" it is not meant to be a suggestion to leave your husband. I think those kinds of decisions are personal and can only be made by you.

Besides, I know of plenty of enablers who have gotten well while still in their relationship. Their partners eventually followed suit, or ended the relationship to find another enabler, or were asked to leave when the Enabler got "too well" to tolerate the behaviors anymore.

When we get out of one unhealthy relationship and right into another one it's not usually a coincidence. I'd like to refer you to the following page here on this website to learn how our pre-programmed subconscious "Love Map" set us up for the merry-go-round (just copy and paste the link into your browser):

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/thought_creates_reality.html#outputtingdata

And to the following page for more information on the same topic:

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/relationship_help.html#lovemap

When you get done reading please return here and let's resume our conversation -- I'm sure you will have questions or a reaction you'd like to share with me.

Don

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Nov 21, 2009
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Submitted by: Don Carter

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Hi M.R. -- I have read this post a few times now. Let me begin by saying I get a strong sense that you feel stuck on a merry-go-round and have no idea how you got on it or how to get off of it. When I say "getting off the merry-go-round" it is not meant to be a suggestion to leave your husband. I think those kinds of decisions are personal and can only be made by you. Besides, I know of plenty of enablers who have gotten well while still in their relationship. Their partners eventually followed suit, or ended the relationship to find another enabler, or were asked to leave when the Enabler got "too well" to tolerate the behaviors anymore. When we get out of one unhealthy relationship and right into another one it's not usually a coincidence. I'd like to refer you to the following page here on this website to learn how our pre-programmed subconscious "Love Map" set us up for the merry-go-round (just copy and paste the link into your browser): http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/thought_creates_reality.html#outputtingdata And to the following page for more information on the same topic: http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/relationship_help.html#lovemap When you get done reading please return here and let's resume our conversation -- I'm sure you will have questions or a reaction you'd like to share with me. Don

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