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Nov 15, 2011
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C of U
by: andym

Very pleased to find your site.
From my educational background and digging around, what I have found for myself is: all this mention about dysfunctional family, child rearing and victimization only creat a super codependent person.
Not cut in stone but, I firmly believe having lost everything to my selfish addiction more than once was the only way I could have been shaken to the core and jolted back into reality.
O yes, GOD could and would if he were sought!
See you at Circle of Unity.

Jul 11, 2010
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Recovery
by: Anonymous

Recovery feels like forever. I'm only 25, and although I saw counsellors and pyschiatrist since I was 21 I only really began healing since 23. Two years have passed and it feels like im waiting to feel good enough to walk outside. It's tough that life is like this but we have to deal with what we have. I miss the fact that I failed at university, school and everything at life, when other people had some joy but I try not to blame myself for that. We can only do the best we can do. But for a long time I asked 'why me? why me?'.

Jun 14, 2010
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knowing how to handle emotional reactions
by: Anonymous

It was so good to read this article and hear from someone who has been there. I am 67 years old and have been working on my "inner child" for many years. My emotional reactions were forever over the top at times and caused me much heartache and emotional pain.

Today I seem to be better equipped to handle them although they can trip me up at times. For a long time I couldn't see the alcoholism within my extended family system but one by one the figures started to make themselves known. I found that due to historical factor's my family of origin were extremely dysfunctional thus setting me up as a prime target for marrying an alcoholic who is now in recovery. (26 years)

However along the recovery pathway I had to learn that I to played a part in this "drama" and that my responses were my responsibility not what "someone else had done to me". With loving care from a great therapist she helped me to look "inwards" to what was happening with me and gave me time and space to sit with my feelings once they "woke up"...this allowed me to really grow (up)

It hasn't been easy as I am also married to an ACOA who finds his recovery in AA however at times we do clash. I am thankful that the work that I have done has allowed me to - most times - stand back from his reactions knowing that it isn't about me. I now have a "knowing" that prompts me to keep myself honest about myself not blame others.

My memories are more mellowed today, no extreme anger and blame or feelings of abandonment. I have grieved and continue to grieve for losses that now are tempered in acceptance of what I cant change (the past) My inner child is still a little shy, can be at times fearful however she carries much more courage and peace in her heart today - god bless all those out there who are on this journey

Valerie - New Zealand.

Nov 12, 2009
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re: Dorothy
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for the kind words and positive remarks! I am glad you have begun your journey and have the willingness that it takes to keep moving forward on this journey. I have said it many times to many different people, "This is the most important work you will do while you are experiencing this thing called LIFE" Good luck to you Dorothy.

Angie C.

Nov 12, 2009
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re: therapist info
by: Anonymous

I apologize for me delay in answering your request. If you will e-mail me at angie@internet-of-the-mind.com I would be happy to give you that information.

thanks!
Angie C.

Nov 07, 2009
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Therapist
by: Anonymous

I am curious about the woman who was your counselor? Can you give her name, address, and phone number?

Nov 04, 2009
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Knowing how to handle emotional reactions
by: Dorothy

Thank you for the perfect Bedtime Story before I retire for the night!

I want what you have!!!!! Someday I hope to have this very emotional renewal and then share my life with someone whom I can cherish and love forever and always. I am alone but not always lonely, just sometimes. I yearn for the completeness in bonding with the perfect match.

But just as I wrote that sentence I became scared of being careful for what I wish for. Of course that tells me I am certainly not ready for more at this time. I know I have lots of work to do and the journey could be treacherous, but I plan to give it all I have.

I feel confident that Don and Angie will pick me up if I fall, so that is very invigorating. I feel empowered for the first time. I want to shed the abandonment, isolation and rejection I continue to experience since childhood from my siblings. I appreciate you so much because this is a fearful little girl speaking. I know I will be freed from this bondage one day and I am so ready to be vindicated.

Nov 03, 2009
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Knowing how to handle emotional reactions
by: Dorothy

Goodness...... Angie has written my emotional feelings straight from my Diary!!! I wish I could piggyback and be as healthy, happy and serene as she enjoys today. As I was reading this testimony I thought I can copy this and sign my name to this.

It does give me strength and hope that I too can become that complete person and be happy. I hope I have been through the worst phase in my life. With perseverance I will enjoy the victory that will eventually come into my life as Angie so eloquently shared. I want this dream to become a reality. It makes me want to work real hard to step into this destiny of the goodness that is on the other side.

Angie and Don have been very inspirational to me and I appreciate all that they do for me and everyone. I see light at the end of the tunnel!!

Nov 03, 2009
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The Primary Benefit of Adult/Child Recovery!
by: Don

Great post Ang! I really like the quote below because, to me, it's the essence of how Adult/Child recovery, Inner Child work, and working with Ego-States can help us in our present-day life.

..."Today when I have a situation where I am triggered emotionally I don't automatically look to where and why the other person is either "wrong or bad", but instead can turn my focus inward and find out which part of me is having the emotional response and why I got triggered. I can tend to that part of me and work towards staying in the 'adult self' to try and handle the situation. I can practice setting a boundary or expressing my feelings in a healthy way..."

Personally, I've found that I now have the ability to stay "Ok" even when other people are not. And when I'm the one to get triggered emotionally I too can do what you have so eloquently described above.

It's been a wonderful thing to be in a marriage with someone who is just as serious about recovery and personal growth as I am. It is because of this, and putting God in the center of our marriage, that we have been allowed the opportunity to grow in these ways.

It is my deepest hope that others get to discover & experience the wonderful gifts that recovery has to offer.

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