Joyful World

by What If
(USA)

I know that underlying all this pain is a joyful world of celebration and love. Why does it keep disappearing? I feel alone. I am alone. I take care of the same parents who are now elderly, even though they emotionally abandoned me when I was young. I have nothing to show for my life. I spent most of it doing nothing but trying to feel loved and not empty! But the emptiness always returns. I start to dislike the people I grow closer to. I wonder if I am deeply disordered. I need to work but I don't ever have the energy!

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Feb 13, 2012
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Alone = Abandoned
by: Don

Hello,

Sorry for your pain. It is important to listen to that feeling though. It is trying to tell you something - "Please find us a safe group of people who are working through these issues and become part of it. we cannot overcome abandonment in isolation."

Unmet emotional needs leave a deep wound and that feeling of abandonment is an echo of the past...we say the word alone, but it is NOT really just feeling alone... Adult/Children from dysfunctional families have a fear of being left alone. Some have a Terror of Abandonment.

Find a group of safe people...and come out of hiding! As John Bradshaw would say, "Give that gift to yourself, come out of hiding!"

Don

Feb 13, 2012
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Not disordered - wounded
by: Don

Hi,

It is important to create some safe places with safe people in your life. A group like Codependents anonymous, Adult Children of Alcoholics (also for any dysfunctional family)is a good start.

You must reach out, they won't be coming to you until you come to them first. Online groups can be good too! something in real time so you can have instant interaction.

I am looking for a what to set that up...stay tuned.

Don

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