It's only taken me 40 years to realise I have abandonment issues!

I have had a sudden revelation and it's only taken me 40 years to realise I have abandonment issues. At the age of 8 my parents were advised to send me to a childrens hospital to get my asthma under control. I was taken out of school and was in hospital for 6 months. It was like I would imagine borstal to be - some children had behavioural problems, bed wetting, anorexics, physically and mentally disabled etc all in one large ward.

I had trouble fitting back into school when I returned and found myself isolated. This isolation has stuck with me throughout life.

I have been married for 19 years and managed to chose myself a partner who also has abandonment issues - not physically but mentally. He is very angry that his father never had time for him.

This all makes for a crap marriage, we have a 13 year old son whom I don't want to have the same problems, hence I feel unable to divorce.

I guess now I'm aware of the issues I will have to seek help to address them!

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Feb 07, 2013
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It is the same for me
by: Switch73

I am 47 and have just begun to realise that the feelings and compulsions which i act on daily have names and whole rafts of old old memories to go with them which are to do with what i can now name as neglect.
I feel so stupid for not realising sooner . . .but I know it doesnt make sense to blame myself . .

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