IS IT ME OR HIM

I KNOW I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO SUFFERS SEVERE ABANDONMENT PROBLEMS. He is in total denial but i feel all the affects of his behavior and lashing out so fourth and so on. However in trying to research im wondering if i may also have some issues with abandonment that i put up with such behavior and im financially strapped to him because at this point i cant go it alone.This is just up his alley, he know this and withholds every type of support he can emotional, physical friendship he has totally abandoned me except financially. Im hurting and realize his problem but i care for him. Im trying to make positive changes in my life i dont want to leave him but i feel like im enabling his crap. Im scared because i know he would rather leave me than deal with these issues.

Confused and hurt