inappropriate romantic relationships

by jane
(uk)

I would like to know what the connection is between abandonment issues and choosing a partner. I understand codependency and the need to be needed but I can't understand why all the men I am attracted to have abandonment issues. I am attracted to them and they to me, before I get to know them. When I get to know them I discover their issues. This has lead to relationships whih are always doomed to fail, from men with depression and addictions to married men. Why am attracted to these men even when I don't know that they have these issues and it ultimately means abandonment one way or the other?

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