I'm an enabler to my addict boyfriend

We have been together for 3 years, I feel responsible for his addiction because he wasn't so deep into it when we first met each others,now he is an addict I feel so guilty and sometimes I feel it's my fault, try to help him all the way in every way I can. I never say no to anything he wants. I believe all his excuses and words. Help!

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Aug 24, 2010
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It's so hard for me to leave him yet i have no hope for future
by: Anonymous

Thanks Kathie for sharing. but it's so hard to leave him i love him so much i feel lost without him i dont imagine my life without him. he had been clean for 3 months but relapsed again ,those 3months were so hard for me we had to be apart and i suffered alot but never let him knew i tried to be strong for him because he told me he needs to stop using before he can be with me so i waited for him and put everything on hold for that purpose now he is back again after 3 months,i feel so depressed and the hope i've been holding on to all that time is dead.

Aug 24, 2010
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STOP FEELING GUILTY
by: KATHIE GRACE

I went through the same thing as you did. I was married to a man who was addicted to crack cocaine. I couldn't say no either to anything.
He was an abusive man and I couldn't give him up.
Well God took it out of my hands, because he didn't want me to continue staying in a toxic relationship. We are now divorced and my mind is clear now, I don't know how I ever allow myself to live in such a situation. When you have the core wound of abandonement though. You don't want to let go, believe me I know. Stop feeling guilty and do something about it. If you need to get out of the relationship, then you must, even if you have to go to counseling. You have to do this for your own emotional, physical and spiritual health. God bless you.

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