I'm a 20 year old thirty-er, what can I do?

by Meelee
(Hialeah, FL, USA)

Born in a dysfunctional family, where violence and daily being cursed, downtrodden and ridiculed, I was a very insecure boy in my teenager years. Did not have many friends, which made me even more insecure. In my late teenager years I found the first people that accepted me who I was, in a youth group where I found my first friends. As I grew up, I had some girlfriends, not many relationships where successful, and also had some jobs I did not completely hate (the people, not the jobs).

Regardless I've 'moved up the ladder' after 1 long term relationship of over 2 years, and now am married.

Even though I consider my morality level to be (much)higher than the average person, I feel in other fields like job, or progression in life, I am more like a guy just turning 20. Like my psychological part just aged slower.

Not only on the Erikson stages, but even when I look at many people I know of my age,they all are dads, purchased a home, while though I'm married I don't have any of this, and I feel a bit frustrated not to know what I should do to keep up. Even my job is a small job (mainly because of bad economy and little work experience).

Advice?