I relate to the whole abandonment syndrome

by Pat
(Utah)

I have been battling this all my life. There are many abandonment issues as a child, Dad went into service the day I was born and was gone for 15mo. Then mom and dad divorced when I was 4. Didn't see much of him growing up. He was probably an alcoholic. Oh I do remember one time he was drunk and he came over to me and put his arm around me and said, you don't like your dad do you. And I did not like him when he was drunk.

I just found out that I lived with him and his girlfriend who both drank, when I was 4 or at one time after the divorce. I know nothing about this. It has brought up issues for me, big time, that I have not wanted to socialize as before.

I come from a very dysfunctional family, cold and unfeeling people, and a very mean sister. I have a belief in God and believe he will help me as I understand what my real issues are and this has clarified them a lot. Thanks!

Abandonment and the train of ill as well as Codependency is multigenerational and it is time for it to be released. I am glad I found this site. Thanks again! Thank God for recovery and I have been in it for years. I think this is the missing piece.

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Nov 11, 2013
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triggers of defrosted emotions
by: Pat

I haven't been on this site for a very long time but I found what I wrote here so I wanted to add more. Does this issue of abandonment ever go away. I thought it had, but recently I had trigger that have thrown me into what? the codependent "crazies" it certainly has thrown my emotions off, to anger, sadness, fear and I'm sure shame though I did not realize it until now. I am a 69 year old single woman, I have been married twice but none have worked for me, why, I think I have always been with addicts of one kind or another, and dating also, same senerio. It is great to read about these things again, and relate, not that I want to deal with it anymore really, but yes, I want to be healed and to understand what on earth is going on. I have had a lot of recovery and yes, it is a man that has triggered it all back again. It is my issue though and my healing that needs to be done. I hope we all can one day get past all this stuff. It is life and we can grow from our adversity, I believe this. Hang in there and I hope you find the healing you all deserve.

Nov 29, 2011
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Welcome!
by: Don

You're welcome for the website Pat...Just "paying it forward". I am so grateful that people were there for me when I needed it most! Keep on seeking recovery...then pay it forward by posting here and anywhere else someone may reach out.

Let us know if you have questions! And please share your journey...the ups AND the downs, because there will be plenty of both.

Thanks for your support,
Don

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