I need a wake up call before I lose myself...

by Confused2014
(Virginia)

I am in love with a man who has been drinking
Since he was 21 years old. He has had 3 DUIs
Been in 4 different rehabs and has no idea why
He drinks, except that he likes the taste of it.

I knew him back in 2nd grade - high school
And had a major crush on him then. We
Were friends back then, but lost contact after
High school.

This July I attended my 25th high school
Reunion and I connected with my friend. But
He was different. Grown up, more handsome than
Ever but something was off. He was deathly
Skinny but I could still see traces of the old
Young man I once knew.

We started talking even after he told mr he was
An alcoholic bc he told me he wanted to stop
And he started going to AA. He went 3 times,
Then stopped.

I told him that I didn't want an alcoholic boyfriend Or husband so all I could be to him was a Friend. He would tell me everything I
Wanted to hear abt rehab, getting his life
Together, moving out of his parents home,
Taking the apex classes to get his license
Back and joining a church and using his
Gifts to glorify God.

His words are wonderful, but his actions are
Lacking. He states he lives me but continues
To do the very thing he knows will keep us apart
DRINK!

I want to walk away, but for some reason
I feel obligated to help him! Am I crazy or what?

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Sep 23, 2013
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Coda
by: Anonymous

Hi there: I would suggest finding a codependants anonymous group, reading about codependance, and checking out Melody Beatties Codependance no more.

Sep 23, 2013
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run from a guy who you know won't change
by: Anonymous

Run now. Stop pretending you could help him.
I know because I tried to help and it ended up dragging me
down. I was just so lucky to escape with the help of my higher power and a good counsellor. Trust your gut on this
one and it will save you many tears. Love jeanette

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