I feel so angry

by Carletta
(Beaufort, SC)

I don't even know where to begin. I want a solution. My husband has a ministry and is totally devoted to it. He has neglected any and all personal responsibility at home. I work full-time. I am about to lose it. No matter how much I have appealed to him. He, on the other hand, enables his son, my stepson, whom I don't like at all.

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Oct 26, 2010
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To Carletta
by: Angie Carter

I certainly can understand your frustration. But on the flip side, if you have "appealed" to him about this situation and nothing has changed or there have not been improvements in working towards change, then the ball is back in your court. When people decide not to respond to our appeals for what we need or how we feel then the responsibility is on us to determine if the situation is (at this point) acceptable to us.

The most important part of a boundary is the follow through if someone does not respect our boundary. People get to chose who they want to be, how they want to act, how they want to respond to others...we cannot change that. The only thing we really change is ourselves. If the other person is unwilling to address the issue, that is their choice. But you also have choices! Continue to educate yourself on boundary setting and how to follow through with your actions, if your boundary is not honored. (The boundary is for us, not the other person.)

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