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Dec 12, 2010
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de ja vu
by: anonymous

Girlfriend - your story is so much like mine but my spouse smokes cocaine. It has financially ruined us we even separated and I started divorce proceedings but he had a year of sobriety and within 2 months he relapsed.

He was high and got violent with me - which had never happened in our 14 year relationship - I called police and he was looking at jail time. Everyone in the family agreed not to bail him out - if we wanted him to live and finally get it - he needed to sit there.

Well as you know addicts (I have 20 years of sobriety) are VERY manipulating - they will lie, steal cheat to get whatever it takes. Well he kept calling his mother and told her he tried to commit suicide in jail. Instead of calling our "team" so we could report this to the jail and have him watched she ran over there and saved his ass AGAIN.

I was so upset because of the violence involved. She's actually upset with ME because I called her crying "why did you let him out. You promised you wouldn't and if you were thinking of it to call one of us (so we could talk her out of it).

He is not getting jail time but domestic violence therapy, regular therapy and I hope (i have asked the DA is he could be contained to be drug tested as long as possible.

I told him I'm not ready to come home - he acts all understanding but I know him - I'll hear about this for the rest of my life.

Because of stress, mostly caused by him I believe, I have fibromyalgia, IBS, chronic pain, anxiety (panic attacks are back) my depression is worse and I have an autoimmune disorder which I'm getting checked. I have so many Dr. appointments its ridiculous and I know if I didn't have stress, I wouldn't bee this sick.

I found Alanon to be a life saver to me and I plan on going back. I'm also going to Physical Therapy where part of it is to exercise in a 92 degree pool. I need to put ME first cause I"m also taking care of my dad in my spare time.

Put yourself first (I'm saying this for you as well as myself.)

take care.

Jul 28, 2010
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Caring
by: Evan

Hi Candice,

I think you need to give yourself credit for caring, for not wanting to see a loved one in pain, and for dealing with an incredibly difficult situation - with it sounds like little support.

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