How to hide my meds...from my addicted husband

How to hide my prescription meds from my addicted husband...

I have spent years trying to hide my medicines. It is a brutal awful cycle. A couple of years ago we bought safes like to put jewelry and valuables in. He broke into the lock. Then I got another one and it had a number code and backup lock. HE broke into that one. Each time breaking the safe.

NO matter when I hide it in the house he finds it and steals it. HE apologizes and feels bad. HA. Don't buy it at all. He's also bipolar and is adjusting his meds for that and for the first time in his life admitting that he does have that illness. He's still not sure if the bipolar causes the addiction or if he is an addict to. He is an addict. Even if it's because of bipolar, I have to find a way so that I can have my necessary meds and not have to play the 24/7 game of hide and seek with a grown man. I"m to tired of it.

I had the worst flu of my life Saturday morning as did my youngest daughter. We were a mess of puke, pain and sleep. My husband was taking good care of us. Near the evening as I began to feel a little better I noticed my pill bottle was not where it should be. Then when it did "pop" up many were missing. In the middle of the night I went looking for them. In his clean socks I found over 20 pain pills and a couple in his jeans back pocket. I could tell in my ill fog with the flu that he seemed doped up.

He apologized in the morning as soon as he realized I had found his supply. He said he was manic and guessed the mania really does it to him. I want him to own up to it, but even this was progress for him, although it meant nothing to me.

I don't know what to do. There must be some way to lock them up within the home. Someway?

livinginhope

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Jul 10, 2017
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Make a Switch?
by: Anonymous

Substitute other pills (harmless ones) in your pill bottle. Switch our your pills in an over-the counter type med bottle. Use pills that look like the prescription. When they steal the pills, they will not be stealing your narcotics, nor will they get the same rush. Hopefully, they will decide your stuff is no good and stop using it.

Jun 26, 2017
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Hiding Places
by: Anonymous

I am in the same boat as most of you. This hide and seek has been part of my marriage for the last 5+ years and I'm sick of it too. Husband is prescribed pain meds, takes all of his within a few days then starts on mine. I need him because he has wonderful benefits through his workplace. I have been on long-term disability for 5+ years. As most of you said, he is a wonderful person but pills come before everything else in his life.

We must order 90 days of meds for our policy to pay the max. I always put my pills in 2-3 zip-lock baggies then I hide them in the hems of my curtains, tape them underneath the bottom of dresser drawers, use magnets to hold them on the back of the refrigerator. For long-term storage, I have pulled up a piece of carpet behind our entertainment center and placed them under then tucked the carpet back down. I've removed a piece of baseboard and drilled holes in the drywall to hide them. Husband has a bad back so the closer to the floor is best for me. He found them when I taped them to the back of picture frames or under top drawers etc...I have hollow curtain rods that I hide them in but it is a hassle to get them back out when I need them. Those are my current hiding places.

Each of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Jun 08, 2017
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caretaker ex steeling my meds
by: Anonymous

I had spinal fusion from L-1 to T-10. Still in pain, only it's worse now. They cut nerve to leg & now thoracic & tailbone pain is off the charts, and back now bent over permanently. I've had cervical fusion, 2 new knees..fallin' apart.

My ex husband took wonderful care of me, but he steals my pain medicine no matter where I hide it ! Steals my sleep medicine & my pain patches (impossible to hide lidocaine boxes!)
He feels justified, even though he got exact same pain medicine as me for knee & hip.
BUT, he'd be out of HIS medicine in days, then starts on mine!

Finally I told his doctor what he was doing (my doctor is in same practice). She said we both should go to pain Management.
I did today & made mistake of telling them I'd get a lockbox...nope, refused to give me anything. ..so now immediately crying as pain is that bad. I can't kick him out as I need assistance. I can't do anything physically. ..I still need his help. I can't live here with my animals, mow yard, etc.

What can I do?

Apr 15, 2017
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It helps me to read that I am not alone
by: SadGirlOkc

I have had back problems and pain for years.
During a pilates session about in August 2016 I felt
A rip of pain coming back from a roll over position
back onto my stomach. A week later, with daily worsening back pain, I cannot even go in to work. After an mri
I find I have a massive disc herniation, one discectomy
later and I am home with a Norco rx. My Bf has a love for
these, and has found my hidden pill bottles before
A locked fireproof safe? He found my hidden keys.
Hidden in tampon boxes? No problem for him finding
that. I knew it would only be a matter of time before
he found the latest rx bottle I have hid. I am getting
sick of the stealing/ making me think it was my
mistake on my pill count etc..Honestly, my car or
work are the best places I have found to hide them
Addicts that use these to get high or whatever type of
satisfaction they get, WILL NOT STOP. He does that sheepish
face when i confront him, and usually admits it.
So at least I dont have my partner trying to mind
f*uck me when I find out. He just waits and hopes
I dont fine out. Or that I second guess myself and how
many I have left/ have taken. But also, it is messed
up that I have to keep count in the first place. Sitting here, with
a two inch long wound in my lumbar from have had disc material as hard as a rock removed from my body. Addicts do
not consider you and your problems when they steal.
So damn, where does that leave my relationship?!
He is great in every other aspect, just not in the " would never steal his girls pain pills to get high" kind of way.

Mar 31, 2017
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Where to hide pills
by: Anonymous

Unfortunately I have the same problem. My mess are always disappearing. What I do now is working very well. Now I hide them throughout the house and garage. What I do is locate an electrical outlet are switch cover. I divide my months supply of Ned's into 5-6 equal amounts and them place them inside a small ziplock pouch used for meds. I then CAREFULLY remove an electrical outlet or light switch cover and CAREFULLY place 1 pouch inside of it and CAREFULLY reinstall the cover. So that I don't forget where I hid them, I take a photo of each wall as to include the outlet/ switch cover plate somewhere in the frame. I place these photos in a locked secure file on my phone and I name it ouch. My logic is that "ouch" refers to my pain. Then there is one thing unique with all of the photos. Somewhere in each photo there is a electrical outlet or light switch within them all. That is the only thing each photo has in common. I know the frustration you are going through because as you can see I have obviously experienced this problem. I have not come up short on meds ever since hiding them this way. I still get VERY upset that I would have to go to this degree to hide them. I hope that that helps.

Jan 24, 2017
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Oh, How I can relate.
by: Anonymous

I am always trying to find the best spot to hide my pain Med's from my husband, but he always seems to find them. I have a few bottles in several different places (it gets hard for me to keep track of where I hid them, Ugh)

I am no addict. These pain pills make me nauseous . I only take them if I absolutely need them. My husband constantly asks for them. It's always something with him...his neck, his back, his hemorrhoid hurt, etc. My mistake is that many times I gave him a few just to shut him up.

What I have now just discovered "takes the cake". Like I said, I only take them when absolutely need them, so I have several bottles full of these pills. So I went to get one of my "full" bottles of pain pills, to take one. Something caught my eye & I realized there were different shaped pills in my bottle. They look almost identical to the real ones. So I looked thru all 90 pills & none were my pain Med. I looked up the numbers that were printed on the pills to see what they were. It was a mixture of prescription naproxen & something else. I was fuming. I went to get my other pill bottles, & low & behold, same situation. None of my pain Med's were in the bottles but other Med's that he obviously put there. I am floored over this. Boy do I feel like an idiot for not noticing this.

Of course I confront him, & he makes the excuse that he doesn't remember doing that. Yeah Right :(
I have so much anger & hate for this man.

Just thought I'd share this deception with others to be on the look out for different pills in your own rx bottle.

Dec 26, 2016
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My bipolar husband is addicted to pills. Any pills!
by: Anonymous

First I can't express enough that if you have a fiance that is an addict"For the love of that is Holy Please Don't Marry Them!" Run as far away as you can.

My husband was diagnosed with Bipolar in 2010. He self medicates and steals pills from me, my mother, his mother anywhere that he can get it. My daughter is 17 and sees this.She is a wonderful person. She makes good grades. I hate that she sees this. She know when he is on pills.

I have used safes but he breaks into them.I am sick of having to guard the pills at all times. What I want is for him to move out.I'm really tired.

Addicts don't think like everyone else. They want drugs and will do anything to get them. They have no remorse for what they do. If you keep the drugs from them they get really angry. There is a since of entitlement.

My son is 14 and needs his father. He plays football and is really into athletics. I won't let him not have a father.I am still able to hide the drug addiction from him.

My husband is a good father and a very kind person. I just can't take the drug abuse anymore. I will do anything for my children. I'm just not sure how much more of this I can take.





Dec 11, 2016
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Addicted Fiance
by: Anonymous

I'm on pain needs and anxiety meds. My fiance is taking them and accusing me of lying about my medicine being missing! I got my new prescription on the 5th of December. The 6th of December 7 were missing from my bottle! I couldn't have taken them or I wouldn't be awake to even count my pills on the 6th! He's now taking my Tramadol for severe pain, I have a deformed C-5 and constant lower back pain. I suffer from muscle twitches from nerve damage due to the deformed C-5 and have been prescribed Tizanidine for that. Now he's taking my Alprazolam, Tramadol, and Tizanidine!!!! Leaving me to suffer all month because he wants to feel better! I tell him to go to the doctor but he says they are all crooked, but steals the medicine I'm given by my doctor! I'm just exhausted and ready to walk away from all of the BS, if you can't control yourself and can't show compassion for the pain and suffering I'm in; it's time for me to bounce! I can do bad on my own, I don't need help for that!

Nov 09, 2016
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I literally feel your pain
by: Anonymous

My husband has stolen my pain meds from me twice now and lied about it both times. I don't know what hurts more. The stealing or the lying. Especially when he wakes up next to me every morning and sees me struggle to get out of bed because of fibromyalgia and herniated discs. He has MS and I made the mistake of sharing with him in the past because I felt bad and I know he'd do it for me if I needed but it's just not ok anymore. The worst part is, he can easily get his own pain meds but refuses because he doesn't wanna get addicted. Great... so just let me suffer then. I now have to hide them from him and pray he doesn't find them because if it happens again, I WILL be asking for a divorce.

Aug 01, 2016
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Addict
by: Dianne

When I first became sick - I wouldn't take much pain meds. He would take a whole script. As time went one & I finally heard - that I was not going to get over this pain - I was diagnosed with RRMS. My "flares" can last weeks. The pain will be so horrible & intense - I'm sorry. "That's the way it is - that's the it goes". He will get mad at me because he hurts too or he will turn the AC to 78.

He spends more time with our neighbor. They both look-out for each other.

He had to buy me more meds today because I was out & still have 6 more days until I go to the Dr on Wednesday We spent over $800. But he says it's no different from him going to a Dr.

Jul 08, 2016
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Wow I am not alone
by: KB

I have been disabled since 1997 and been dealing with my husband stealing my meds since 2000. He has landed me in the hospital having DT's in agony and let me think my teen daughter was taking them. When I finally confronted him he admitted it and said how sorry and all that dribble. I want to say that he is/was supportive of me and took good care of me but now is a different story. We do not fight have never called each other names and all that as both of our previous marriages were nightmares. He is a great guy BUT he has a problem that means he is purposely hurting me each time he takes one pill. He also likes to drink and I have no problem with a few drinks a week but every night is an issue as he has relatives who are alcoholics so addiction runs in his family. We have been together for 23 years. I have had enough and told him he must get into rehab. He is not as bad as the falling down drunk or the passed out addict YET. I told him I can't keep doing this. The meds are the only thing allowing me to even partially function I can't work walk with a can and took another fall and have broke my shoulder. He has gone from helping me shower to not caring if I wear the same clothes for a week. He goes to work and comes home and sits in front of the tv all the rest of the time. We have christmas stuff still in the front room 7 months later. He has absolutely no interest in anything and I told him I was done. Yes I even tried the safes and he broke into them now the meds are hid and he has 28 more days to be in treatment or I am gone. Thanks for the rant time.K

Jul 08, 2016
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There is a solution
by: Gaby

From personal experience, I know how painful it is to witness the deterioration of a loved one due to addiction. It is disheartening hearing the apologies and empty promises I was going to recount my story concerning my battle with my then 15-year-old daughter's addiction to heroin, but even though this all occurred 10 years ago, memories of this period cause me to tear up and feel angst in the pit of my stomach. It was awful to watch my beautiful and brilliant child fall so far down the scale, but what happened to me as a result was truly devastating. My weight plummeted to 75 lbs and I thought I was going to die. You see, I became codependent and vicariously became a heroin addict with my daughter. While it was easier for her to get treatment, my codependence almost ate me up and to this day, I continue in therapy.

My daughter started with stealing my Oxycontin for the painful disorder I suffer from: CRPS formerly RSD (the names are way long). And once I accepted that she was taking my medication notwithstanding that she was already an addict, I knew that if I installed the most sophisticated home safe or hired a security guard to watch over my meds, my daughter would have found a way to get them. An addict will go to any means to get what they want and will contritely apologize and tell you they'll never do it again. But those promises and shame you think they exhibited are forgotten in a blink of an eye.

If you want your husband to keep out of your pills, there is no way you can have them at home or any place that is accessible to him. As I said, addicts will do anything to get what they need so don't kid yourself. It may be necessary to pocket 1 or 2 or however many you'll need for a day and keep the pill bottle somewhere he can't. I used to take my medication to my office but funny, there were addicts there too who found out I had Oxycontin in my desk and I was robbed a couple of times. I was forced to begin locking my desk and the problem was eliminated.

During the time period that my daughter was using heroin, I took a lot of action. Unfortunately, it was all the wrong action and instead of helping her, I damaged her and almost died in the process. I allow myself to be so wrapped up in her that I lost my identity, I did everything possible to ensure she knew I loved her, and I passively participated in her addiction. My weight got dangerously low and I was hospitalized 8 times as a result. And she was the heroin addict. I allowed her addiction to rule my life.

I could tell you a lot of things to do. After my experience, I'm definitely an expert. Seriously, make nothing available or accessible. Do not let him know when you're going to the doctor or to the pharmacy to refill. Those would be like teasing him. Take good care of yourself first and you will in turn take good care of him. If you take care of him first, you will lose yourself. You know he needs treatment so it may come of the point where an ultimatum may have to be made. I would ask him if he values his life and if he does, ask him if this is how he wants to live it. Ultimately, though, the choice is his.

Jun 10, 2016
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I'm in that same boat
by: Anonymous

I have chronic pain from living with diabetes for 2/3 of my life... I'm on narcotic pain meds to deal with the constant pain, so I can walk around and at least tend to my children. From the beginning my husband had shown me that he enjoys narcotics, which at the time I've never even seen one. When I had my first born via c-section they gave me oxy afterwards... He wanted them so badly and me thinking that I don't need it, would give it to him... Fast forward almost five years, I started getting them on a regular basis because that's when my leg pain started... Ever since then he would look EVERYWHERE and steal them from me. I have hidden them in a tampon box and he STILL finds them. You're absolutely right, it is a 24/7 hide and seek game with a grown man... And I too am SO sick and tired of it. If they are in the house, it's never safe. He WILL find them. I kept telling myself "I need to just have it in me constantly" but I tend to forget to take it with me everywhere.. That's when he'll find them. The fucked up thing is that he blames me for his addiction.. Saying shit like "I can't get clean when I can hear the pills in your pocket" and the like. And when he does get caught and I confront him, he has the balls to lie to me and deny he took it... Only to admit to it later...
I can't stand this anymore... I need to dump this loser... Unfortunately, I've supported his career for the last 12 years, giving up my hopes and dreams to raise my family.. So even with a collage degree but without much work history, it's hard for me to find a job... I've relied on him for too long... I can't afford to leave with two kids right now, so I'm stuck in this hell hole... Each day worrying about where I'm going to hide it next... If I'll be able to take a lot less to be able to make it another two, three weeks until my refill... This is complete psychological and emotional abuse... I am so sorry that you're going through this with your husband... I really truly know how devastating it is.. When you can't even trust the man... My heart aches for all of us in the same boat... Hopefully that one day we'll soon find peace

May 19, 2016
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Help!!!!(sorry for the punctuation I'm upset and just venting)
by: Anonymous123

My aunt steals everything from me and I always look the other way!!! I'm her clutch she ask me for everything and I do it because I'm living in her home but I'm at my wits end she stole presents that my grandmother gave me and I just acted like it wasn't anything then she stole my bag my aunt gave me again I didn't confront her . 6 months ago she stole my anxiety medication and i know it was her because I was having a panic attack and she said that take your pills in your bag in the front I did but there were only 2 I was like how did she know I put them there and why are there only 2. I didn't make it into a big deal because I didn't want to her kids and ex husband to think i was addicted to them. I just hide them every where I could think of and take my anxiety meds with me but yesterday again she stole all my medication everything but my depression medication. To be honest I'm really hurt even tho it's expected I just feel like you could at least a apologize or even seem a little bad but she doesn't she denies it was her so what can I do I just feel so hurt because out of everyone I'm always there for her and try to see the good in her but she can't even respect me enough to be like I know you need these to sleep and for your panic attacks I'm sorry I just need help and I'll forgive her and try to help her get clean again. I just can't believe she went into my room destroyed and flipped over my things for pills really she told my brother that she was cleaning it and she just went through all my things I can't talk to anyone about it my mom says it's my fault to grow up and say something but I can't what can I say I'm 21 years old working and trying to go to school I need a place to stay I'm just tired of my things or me being less than important to respect. I just need to learn how to hide them so I don't have to worry every time I leave then under my bed or under my pillow or in a different bottle(folic acid) I'm just stressed I have a lot on my plate and not being able to protect me and my things are driving me crazy because she really doesn't care today after I worked a double she wanted me to go get her cigs and do this and that and I just got home and she acts like nothing like idk I'm thinking of talking to someone about this but I'm afraid of getting her in trouble. Imma try to hide anything important or in need for my health 1st but idk I need advice I'm suffering I can't even save money to get my own place.

May 11, 2016
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Magnets glue and mint tin
by: Anonymous

In a familiar situation here. I've resorted to gluing tiny magnets ( art supply store) with e-6000 clear glue. Mount them under tables or under lower cabinets. Put glue on magnet- hold in place overnight with duct tape. You can even paint your mini mint tin in a camouflage color so it blends in.
Don't put all your eggs in one basket so to speak.
Of course as an obvious disclaimer use caution if small children are around.

Mar 16, 2016
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Addedendum to my post
by: ManyTears

To be clear, didn't mean bad choice to be with my grandson.

Mar 16, 2016
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Living with ex- husband to raise grandson. Ex steals my meds
by: ManyTears

I see so many of you have lived the torture of needing your medication, constantly having it stolen, constantly trying a new hiding place. I just had 30 pills taken in less than a week from getting a new prescription. This makes me feel so violated & now I must suffer emotionally & physically. Add to that, this person is a pathological liar & NEVER, EVER, admits to anything. He always tries to tell people I'm crazy, if I ever say anything about his lying. I want to leave so bad, but he has the guardianship of my grandson, who is 15, and with 2 years of High School left, I just can't leave him. He has abandonment issues already from his mom. I just feel so completely broken. I never wanted to be with him from the beginning. Made a bad choice.

Feb 11, 2016
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What's your rock bottom?
by: Anonymous

I was on here about a year ago. Posted as "ithurstsomuch." Well, I'm back to say that after trying for 6 years out of the 26 that my husband and I were together; I have finally hit my rock bottom.

I tried everything regarding hiding pills, trying to get him help, we even moved to a different city to get him away from his dealer. But nope, still went for my meds. And on the third day on our new place he od'd yet again, taking all of a medication that I need to not have seizures. He directly put
my life in danger with no cares about it all.

When I called 911 while he was passed out, he happened to wake up and told me, "I was having the biggest overreaction ever." When they got him, against his will, with 4 cops and 4 EMT's to the hospital, his BP was 80/45. Nearly dead.

When he was revived and asked who his emergency contact was he looked right at me and said, "nobody." I walked out at that point never to look back. I'm nobody, then you don't get to steal from "nobody" anymore and you don't get to ruin everyday of this "nobody's life."

It's been 2 months. I do not know where he is or do I want to. I have chosen a very hard path since he was the only bread winner in the house, when he wasn't selling EVERYTHING not nailed down for pills. It is an amazing, yet truly scary feeling to be without him, but I am determined to make it work for me. Because I matter. My health and life matter. I'm important too. This was for me this time.

And those are the key words. For me. I was so sick when we were together all of the time, my chronic pain flaring daily, in two months, not only is not a pill missing, but I've been able to cut back because I am not in so much emotional pain which causes so much physical pain in return.

Losing my son because he did not want to speak to me until I broke up with his dad, was also a horror show and still is. My son doesn't quite believe that I am actually done with this relationship; but I couldn't be more done if I tried.

You cannot help somebody who does not want help. It took many, many years and losing absolutely everything for me to understand that. My rock bottom.

What's yours? Seriously, try an NA or AA program. Even if you choose to stay with your addict. You need to help yourself more probably then you need to help your husband.

Peace, best of luck to everybody. One day at a time.

Feb 05, 2016
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Support is out there, you just have to looki in the right places!
by: Laurie

Unfortunately where there is a will there is away. I was wondering to all those that had commented on here if any of you have thought about attending NarAnon meetings to gain support from who have either been there or are going thru similar?

I would suggest you also look into joining my closed facebook group which is for anyone affected by someone else's addiction. When we don't know what to do and are sick of doing the same things over and over again expecting different result, but always get the same result... wouldnt you like others to talk to that understand?

https://www.facebook.com/groups/477429275752942/

Remember it is difficult living with and loving an addict but these facts will never change -

You didnt cause your loved one to take drugs
You cant control your loved ones addiction
you cant cure your loved ones addiction.

Addiction is a progressive disease that gets worse over time and there isnt anything we can do to stop it. that would be like trying to stop someone from breathing by just saying stop.

You are important
you matter
and you are not alone.

I wish you well with your journey.

Dec 24, 2015
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Update
by: Anonymous

I have posted a few times. Once about husband stealing my meds even with safes and once with his rehab stint that was 2 weeks. We have had better times and really bad times. we have been in counseling together for 5 months therapist discovered this past week we are not ready for couples counseling. He has to do major work on his self.

So he sees a psychiatrist. She thinks he is bipolar. She has him on a million different medications and some have made things so much worse. She also has him on Naltrexone for alcohol abuse. That has helped cravings. He has had 2 relapses. One was 2 months ago and was really bad and my son found him totally out of it and he had mixed alcohol with all his antidepressants and he was bleeding and had a straight razor and had tried to slit his throat.

I had hoped they would admit him but they didn't. Just this week I noticed my meds missing again. Not my opiates. My topamax. I just started it this week. He found out it was prescribed for my anxiety and migraines. Also have me on visteral which is just an antihistamine but makes drowsy so been stealing those. My neighbor keeps all my medication at her house so it is just embarrassing to have to ask her to add more. Oh and my old 12 yr old dog is on tramadol and he was stealing it.

So i dont know why he thinks he is sober. He hasn't been to AA in 2 months. He had been going every day and I was very proud. So now I see my own weekly therapist and my own psychiatrist once a month. All i can do is work on me. I physically cannot hold a job due to my lupus, spine issues, and Ra.

I want more than anything for my marriage to work. My therapist is at least helping me with a plan in case it doesn't. Like thinking about applying for disability. I just feel at 43 it is shameful. I don't know why it is me admitting i need help and cant do something. Plus i am a tough person I feel like if I could find a job where I didn't have to sit more than 10 mins or stand very long maybe and could limit hours to under 5 a day maybe I could try.

I quit my job almost 2 years ago that was the worst job I could have down with my problems. school bus driver. I wish i had at least worked 6 more months. I needed 4 more work credits or something for disability. I had been a stay at home mom until 2010-2014. So there is my update.

It is some better he has stuck with therapy longer than I thought. Still has anger. Before he was passive now it is loud which might be better as far as communication. Who knows . He never compliments me and it hurts. We are actually working on a 5 love languages book. Lol corny but at least he is working on it we have a cabin booked for our anniversary the end of this month. So hopefully it goes well merry Christmas everyone.

Happy holidays. Hang in there. Hope everyone finds some peace at least for 1 day!!

Nov 28, 2015
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To the [shame-based explative deleted] wives
by: Anonymous

I got an idea... How about you stay with the man you took your vows with and support him (rehab, 12 step meetings). I guarantee you he is not having fun doing this stuff. For Better or for worse. Man up and help the people you claim to love

Nov 20, 2015
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same boat
by: Anonymous

I'm leaving mine, you should to, that's the only way to stop them, there full of lies, false apologies, and the best way for them to get your love and hope back is to admit they have a problem, makes you think OMG he at least admitted it, they don't change, as long as, they know it's OK not too

Oct 23, 2015
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Hiding meds from an addict husband
by: Dianna

I certainly know the frustration of an addict husband who steals your meds. This had been going on in our marriage off and on for 30 years. He's now in treatment after taking 90 plus Adderall, Valium...and other narcotics. I had them hidden and locked up which he found and took off. 2 days later he called me to come get him and I said no. I found out he withdrew $1030.00 from the bank and also borrowed money from a check loan place. All that in 2 days. His daughter picked him up and has now hidden him from me. She is evil and using this to get back at me. Did I mention I hate her?

I'll give you a few examples of hiding that worked. I took the ink stem out of ink pens and put meds in there. I have put meds in a small baggie and put that in spice cans. I have bought 3 safe's and he broke into all of them. I put meds in a baggie and added the baggie to a notebook binder. 3 ring binder. If you collect recipes for example, keep the baggie in between pages. I have also used hair spray, pump bottles. Empty the hair spray and put the meds in a baggie and stuff them in the container. I had to use tweezers to get the baggie out. It's a bit tricky.

Right now I can't think of anymore places. I hope you are able to use one of my suggestions. I know how frustrating and angry it makes you.

Best of luck!!!!!!! Dianna

Sep 24, 2015
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Divorce
by: Sharon

Wow so I'm not the only one I am 44 years old I was diagnosed with a terminal disease 5 years ago I know Joker it's a very painful disease I started off just taking percocet now the doctors have me on percocet and morphine my pain medicine started to disappear and I was told it was my imagination I was even told that I would get up in the middle of the night and take it without knowing and I was stupid enough to believe it no it was my husband all along I tried lockboxes and I even tried safe none of it worked the one thing that did work is I got him out of the house he took off to a different state to go live with his dad who come to find out has pain medicine there he goes to his any groups twice a week and says that he's changed but he hasn't I change the locks on my front door with the help of my best friend now I'm picking up the pieces of my life without him I don't want him in my home and I don't want him near me the answer to the problem is a divorce he manipulated me and he used me and on top of it he would tell me he loved me and I was stupid enough to believe it how can you love someone and do that to them that's not love

Sep 24, 2015
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There are a couple options!
by: Anonymous

There are some uncommon safes that are available. One looks like a power outlet...fully functional but it has a stash spot built in the back. There are the more common stash spots like the shaving cream canister that works but the bottom opens. They have a variety of different thing like soda, cleaning products and stuff that are full of product to fool but open in some way. Im pretty sure amazon would have them...locally look for a head shop (somewhere they sell tobacco and pipes). Hope it helps :}

Aug 02, 2015
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QUESTION FOR BONI
by: Anonymous

I don't know if Boni is still on this threat, but she posted here in November 2014. If you're still on this thread, I'd love to know if you ever ended up leaving your boyfriend. If so, how are you doing now.

Just looking for some inspiration.


Aug 02, 2015
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I FEEL YOUR PAIN
by: Anonymous

I am so fed up with my husband and his obsession with pain pills. I finally got so tired of it that I told him he had to leave. So, now he's living in my garage. He just won't leave. He's still trying to manipulate me and asks me for pills and to buy him cigarettes. He doesn't do anything but sit in the garage all day listening to music with the door closed in 90 degree heat. I'm so afraid I'm going to go in there one day and he'll be dead, but he said he doesn't care -- he wishes God will take him. More manipulation...

I hate to be cold hearted, but I have to look out for my own sanity and the sanity of my son who lives at home. I am most likely going to file for divorce. Everything he does is to manipulate me to buy pills. For example, he agreed to go to church with me today, but I know it's because he has a prescription and wants me to give him money to buy pills tomorrow. I've really had it. This is NEVER EVER going to change, unless I CHANGE and get off the merry go round and stop this dysfunctional, co-dependent dance with him.

I really feel SO HAPPY now that he's out of the house. He brought such a DARKNESS over our family. Sadly, I have not cried very many tears since he's been living in the garage. How can I miss someone who stayed in the other room watching TV all day and never came to talk to me except to ask for pills or if I'd give him money for cigarettes.

Since he won't change, I HAVE TO CHANGE. I don't believe in divorce. I'm a Christian woman and I have prayed and prayed about this. I just feel as if nothing is going to change. God could definitely prove me wrong and I hope that He does, but I can't fall into my husband's traps anymore.

We've been together over 20 years and have known each other for over 30, but I also know that I'M KILLING HIM by enabling him and paying for the pills. We need to be apart so that we can both work on ourselves. Maybe we'll end up back together. Only God knows.

My son who is still at home wants him out. That's what really gave me the courage to tell him to leave. My son had a major meltdown and told his father that he's never supported him; all he does is take pills; he's pathetic because his wife (me) is like his mother; and he wishes my husband would die.

That was really a wake-up call for me. Everything my son said was true. I was so afraid for my son because he was so enraged. He and my husband still aren't talking. My husband tried to talk to him, but my son isn't having any of it. He's only 16, but he's wiser than my husband for sure.

My husband has never been there for my son. He's been taking pain pills for over 15 years. He is a pig for pills and won't stop taking them until he's passed out. I've tried to hide them, bought safes, etc., but nothing works. I'm tired of being his nurse. I'm tired of having to be on guard every day because I have to make sure I don't leave the pills somewhere that he can find them. I have to carry them around with me everywhere I go. This is NO KIND OF LIFE!

This is my story so far. I'm sure more will be revealed to me. I have been trying to keep my eyes on Jesus so that I don't lose my mind. I'm so happy I found this thread. At least I know I'm not alone.

God bless us all...

Aug 02, 2015
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Dear, Very Angry 😡
by: Anonymous

You, my friend, are NOT ALONE. Please read my post as "Ithurtssomuch" posted about 8 months ago.

Sister in pain, I have yet to break this cycle of abuse. And it is abuse. But my relationship with the love of my life has been spiraling down hill for 5 years and we have pretty much lost everything.. And I mean everything.

And I don't want to hear his voice or feel his touch or look at him either. You are NOT alone!

Safes WILL NOT keep an addict out. You can be as clever as Einstein and your husband would still find your pills. I'm convinced. Please consider wearing them on your person; as ridiculous as that sounds and PLEASE either go to Nar-Anon or seek counseling.

When does it end? I have forgiven my husband so many times over the past 5 years because of how wonderfully peaceful our lives were together for 25 years; half my life. And then I had the audacity to get a disease they call "The Suicide Desease" because it is considered one of the most painful conditions an adult can live with. Not trying to martyr myself, it's simply true.
And he was off to the races with my much needed meds immediately. And oh, the slow-motion, surreal, unraveling of our relationship started.

Used to be such a decent man ; now he's a con artist, liar, thief and drug addict and felon.

And just so you know, Very Angry, the three "C"s of any 12 step program for people affected by addiction, (please hear me, because his entire family blames me.). ....

YOU DIDN'T CAUSE IT, YOU CAN'T CONTROL IT. YOU CANNOT CURE IT.

Simple, and so hard to deal with if the relationship has become as codependent as mine has. He did the same thing to me just 4 months ago with a drug I desperately need. It keeps me from having seizures. He started stealing Vicodin, Klonopin, which he overdosed on, (he's alive) and Fioricet from me like a demon. I literally thought I was losing my mind when my bottles would count up waaaaaaay short. And docs don't care.

He has not worked in 10 months. He sits and smokes pot all day and starts drinking now at 4. So one poison for another, and small favors he's leaving my meds alone. For the last month anyway.

This is no way to live, is it? Where is OUR rock-bottom, not theirs. And why haven't (i speak for myself) haven't I left him? Why?

But, my long-winded response is basically advising you, not to fall for the deceits, lies, eventual poverty, blame and shame game or the anger. Save your strength for YOU! I so get it, but you're more important than that and you're hurting yourself when you're already taking abuse. I say that after having lost 45 pounds in a year from just not caring to eat.

Please get help. YOU first; then him if you care to. Addicts will lie to ANYONE to get their fix including therapists, ANYONE, and like my user name says, "It hurts so much."

I empathize with you, I feel your pain, it's not fault.

Best of luck, love and joy sooner than you know...PEACE!

Ithurtssomuch

Aug 01, 2015
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Fed-up with my lying thieving husband.
by: Very angry 😡!

I spit up with us for 35 years. I cannot stand to look at him anymore. It's not just the meds its other lies and sneaky things he has to do he has broke into every say every lockbox everything I have caught him doing it he'll lie about it it's being alone up to the truth sooner or later like you said something good. 10 years ago I had an aneurysm but we have both just got our pain medicine field had the same amount two and a half weeks later when I got out the hospital I wasn't even supposed to have lived they were going to write me a prescription for pain medication and I told him no I had almost a full prescription at home I knew I had / 80 pills. Boy was I fooled he didn't even have the decency to tell me before I left the hospital some of the worst pain I've ever had in my life because he was embarrassed I've even got breast cancer had bilateral surgery done I can't keep pain medicine when he runs out of his hands take mine he breaks into everything I lock it up again we don't even like each other anymore I used to forgive him because I love him bit I have no forgiveness left in my heart no more for you I want out so bad that I can't live this way anymore I don't know what to do.

Jul 03, 2015
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husband home from rehab
by: Anonymous

So i thought I had 30 days of peace and our insurance denied paying for more than 2 weeks of rehab. Husband said he was doing so great they didn't think he needed in patient therapy anymore. I had surgery on spine the day he went into rehab so wasn't able to be involved with all the classes except for 2 counseling sessions over phone. Now he is home and I try and encourage him and remind him 90 aa meetings for next 90 days he says I am acting like his parole officer. I was told to have him go and have a paper signed to prove he attended. Twice he said he has forgotten. I feel like I can't win. He is so defensive. 3 days a week he does 3 hr classes at outpatient. We soon start counseling for marriage. If I have a bad day he blames me for making him want to use. He refuses to get a sponsor which was a condition of leaving rwhab. I also discovered he has been cheating online with multiple online dating sites. He thinks I should just get over it. I just dont know if I can do this the rest of my life. I bought codependent no more by melody beattie. I feel like we all share the same feelings. Everyone has a different story but similar feelings. This surgery has really made it hard to get the help I need. I have 5 more weeks before I can even be a passenger in a car. Hopefully then I can start working more on myself. I am tired of being blamed for his weak moments. I need to learn how to act but I do know I am not to blame for his choices. Praying for all of us going through these awful times. Praying I can forgive and he can change. I just need more time and tools on what I can do and what I shouldn't be doing. Already 3 pills have been missing. I have all meds out of house except for 3 days at a time.he is still drug tested each week but I know he knows if he steals 3 pulls day after test they will be out of system by the next week. Thanks for letting me vent. I soon can start alnon. I also meet with another counselor over phone next week. My husband is great at manipulation and acting like he is someone he isnt.

Jun 09, 2015
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To 'Anonymous'
by: Don Carter

Thanks for the Update about your husband going to treatment! Take it a day at a time and keep us informed. We are praying for you and your family.

Wishing you all the best,

Don

Jun 08, 2015
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update
by: Anonymous

This last Thursday my husband went into rehab. I pray this will help but know the outcomes of most rehab. At least it is a start. Lots of work to do while he is gone. I know me and my kids need lots of therapy and the place my husband is an offers counseling ro family. The last time he stole meds I kicked him out and he was angry and really thought his kids would stand on his side. It took my boys who are both 19 to say they want nothing to do with him if he doesn't get help. My younger kids are confused and don't really understand all the problems but with help hopefully they will understand their dad is sick. Just wanted to update my situation. If anything at least for 30 days I will have some peace and be able to sort out what I need to do. Good luck everyone.

May 09, 2015
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Sad but relief that I am not alone
by: Anonymous

I have same problem. I swear my husband has the nose of a drug dog. I am on 4th safe and he always finds a way to get in. Last one I paid 300 dollars for. It makes me feel like I am crazy. I googled my brand of safe and immediately a you tube video popped up on how to break into it. I am disgusted. I am so full of anger and bitterness and cant stand the sight of my husband. I have had 3 spine surgeries. I have 4 level fusion and live with pain. Thankfully I soon will get a spinal cord stimulator and I hope to drastically reduce need for pain meds. If he can't get my meds he abuses otc cold meds. Or hides alcohol. He has no remorse and somehow I am always to blame. He is a sick person and admits it but if I say let's go get help he threatens divorce. I don't want a divorce I want us to get help. I don't know how someone can steal meds I need to function and leave me in pain. I am sick of counting pills and always doubting myself. Making me crazy. I hide them and then because I have to move hem to new location constantly I sometimes forget where I have hid them. He laughs and says I will find them. Sick sick sick. This hate in my heart is killing me.

Feb 26, 2015
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end of my rope
by: Confused

Thanks be to God hes back in jail..without any violence so I'm grateful for that. He told me he was basically up for 5 MONths! On meth. He's furious at me because I kicked his new girl out who was partying all night long with MY hous keys in her pocket 3 nights since he's been in jail. I don't think I can do it anymore when he gets out. I need a plan B. I'm so ashamed of him. He says he's a Christian but he's done so many bad things. His friends took my winter coat, my shoes & a locket he gave me. He recently took my whole purse & I had to beg the doctor for pills. I am in severe pain. Need two knee replacements & herniated discs in my back. I am 69 he turns 50 next month. He's spent many years in & out of prison & blamed me for everything he's done. I will check with narcanon if they let him out. I am very sad & devastated. My house is kinda filthy cause I can't clean.

Feb 25, 2015
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You are not alone
by: Anonymous

Hi, I have been dealing with the issue of my husband stealing my prescribed pills for almost 7 years now. I live in serious pain. I won't go into the complete pic but lest anybody blame me for my husband's usage, I have willfully after years of use; weened off every pill I thought he was addicted to. IT IS POSSIBLE TO BE "medically addicted" but not an addict. I'm proof. But that has neither swayed nor changed his behavior one iota. Because the real problem is HIS addiction, his readiness to deal with it and your willingness to find help for yourself. To the gentleman or lady that naively commented that there is always a way to hide meds from an addict...don't be so sure. I left mine with a neighbor, a neighbor and he got them. He's filled 3 months of my meds at a time at the pharmacy with a crushed pill bottle. (Shame on the pharmacy) I am a 27 yr clean coke addict and if I wanted to find it I would find it. My addiction is my illness and only I can change or keep my sobriety. Let me make this clear...IF MY HUSBAND USED COKE, AND HAD LINES ON THE TABLE READY TO SNORT, AND GAVE ME A STRAW: it would STILL be up TO ME to GET UP AND WALK AWAY. Just as it is whenever I visit my sister who still uses. But I leave on the the days she's using. That's owning my addiction not expecting her to hide it. I can control nobody but myself. Likewise, my husband's illness can only be managed by him. To make you the least responsible for ANY aspect of his addiction is just plain wrong. You're not only having to deal with chronic pain, which I am terribly sorry for, but you're also being manipulated and emotionally abused by an ill man/son/daughter/wife, etc.

And after tonight's episode of him stealing a new med, he's an equal opportunity pill lover, all I can say is...NAR-ANON or AL-ANON to learn how to put yourself first. Addicts leave a lot of chaos and drama in their wake. Stop living it. You get to have a life too and that doesn't mean you have to leave him or threaten to. By the way, threats, not worth the breath. Unless you're a bad ass. I've been with mine for 26 years. Thankfully only the last 7 have been hell.
You are not alone, any of you, put yourselves first, stop playing the hide a pill game, you can't win and it's not your fault. Peace and one day at a time.

Feb 13, 2015
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im so confused
by: Anonymous

My adult son steals my pills every month & I beg him not to..I'm going to put them in ziplock bags & put it in a plastic bag pinned to me.

Dec 13, 2014
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I can relate
by: Anonymous

My husband abuses his pain medication. He gets so loaded that he falls out on the floor. His doctor has told me to monitor his pill use. I thought I had tried everything. A few weeks ago I finally bought a safe. I felt so relieved. I could leave the pills in the safe and didn't have to leave them in my purse and walk around with my purse everywhere I went (even to the bathroom). Also, any time I would hide the pills, my husband would find them.

A few days ago, I finally figured out he had broken into the safe. Somehow he's opening it up with a key. He denies it and tries to make me think I'm crazy.

How long are we supposed to put up with this. My distrust of my husband (and my adult son who also takes the pills from me) is spreading to other people in my life. I am always so on edge, irritable and suspicious of everyone. I am in a constant state of anxiety, depression and hopelessness because of my inability to control this situation.

In my case, I really want to walk away from this marriage and to kick my son out of my house. I feel that this is some type of psychological abuse. Until I find the courage to do that, I'm going to go to Co-dependents Anonymous meetings and see if they have the answer.

Good luck to us all...

Nov 09, 2014
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Exhausted !!!
by: Boni

I'm 56 yrs old. I have MS and Lupus. I live with a man for over 12 yrs. He is Bipolar Manic Depression. For the last several years he had been stealing pain meds from me. To the point where I have had to go up to 8 days without and every time this happens it throws my body into a flare of the MS and Lupus and I'm knocked down so hard. He has lied, swore on his grand kids all of it. To the point where he almost had me convinced it was me messing up on my meds. So after having a conversation with a friend of mine that is a doctor. I decided to take this route.
I took every single time that I had taken a pill and wrote it on a piece of paper and kept it on the table in front of me. I put a recorder on my phone one that looks like the phone is off and set it on the table and every time I would leave the room I would push the button. We had a prescription that was to last 30 days he's allowed to take three a day of his and because of the month before we were short from him taking my pills. The recorder caught him for eight days taking almost completely all the medications but 23 pills. He had 23 days left on his prescription before it was to be refilled. This time I let him do it what I did was when he reached the amount that he would have won the day I finally showed him my evidence. Immediately he tried to blame it on me. I have reached a point where I am just exhausted I feel like his mother not his girlfriend. So what I did was I normally keep track of the medications because he has a habit of taking too many. This time I turned around at my friends advice handed him the bottle with 23 pills and said here you go you have to get through 23 days good luck. Now he has to figure out how to do that. But I will pay the price from the manipulation to all of the mental games that he's going to play in his own head. I have given him an ultimatum which I've done before but never followed through it. This time I have no doubt in my mind I guess everyone reaches that breaking point. Which I have done. If he does not seek some kind of help I am just going to walk away. I have explained to him that I just can no longer be your mother. I can't be accountable for you and me having all the health issues that I do. That you have to step up and be a man and start being accountable for your life. Last month there were over half of the prescription missing and I had somehow convinced myself that my friend had done it when she came to visit. I have lost friends over this. For many years I have always covered for him when we run short by as everybody knows the routine you can find pills anywhere if you make excuses. But I will no longer be the enabler. I will no longer hold his medication so he can get through a month. I am going to take mine I'm going to take out one week and give the rest to my friend and neighbor. If he runs out he runs out oh well !!! I will say to anyone out there for the last six years I have not enjoyed my life it has been a roller coaster ride. I guess it was the fear of having the MS and the lupus and the fear of being alone that I tolerated the behavior for so long. But I will say this to anyone unless you make a stand and you stop making excuses your life will never change your life will be constant drama constantly at the end of the month trying to figure out how to get through life. The abuse the verbal abuse the emotions the manipulation you have to be strong and you have to just decide you can't live like this anymore and live life for yourself. I will probably end up in a situation where I will be pretty stuck. But I don't know if living in this situation really is more stuck than how I would be without him. It's very difficult to love someone and have to just let them go. But I have found recently that the inner strength that I have is more than I ever thought I did. He has taken 12 years of my life and put me in harm by taking my pills. To anyone out there it's dealing with an addictive spouse or partner you are stronger than you think you are. So take a stand and change it because I spent so many years on a roller coaster ride that I allowed myself to be on. No more !!

Sep 25, 2014
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What to do?????
by: Stressed out

My husband is doing the same thing. I now have my 5th safe and he just keeps breaking in them. I just got a new script filled Sunday and Tuesday night or yesterday morning he stole my whole bottle. In the past he would take a Handful of pills but this time he took my entire bottle. He is on a wait list for a rehab near by but I am at my wits end. I can't tell anyone and the only real option is call the police. But who wants to do that. I am so sick and depressed to be put in this position. I don't even want to work or anything. I feel like I have no reason to work. It only supports his habit.

Sep 14, 2014
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My health must be first in my house
by: Anonymous

It's sad, isn't it? My pain meds are around the clock due to my spine issue, and they are very strong meds. If I don't take them, the pharmacist says that I could have seizures. The first time I found out about this, I was going by how many of my night time meds were in the bottle...(I take these once a day, so I knew it was time to refill). I burst out in tears from the shock when the pharmacist informed me I was 8 days early. I did not believe her, because I had no pills left in my bottle. I called home, asked my husband to look at the date on the bottle I had thrown away the night before, and he confirmed the date given by the pharmacist. I was in utter shock. I commented that I would just have to go without for 8 days, and the pharmacist about had a stroke. She insisted I call my doctor and tell him. My teen daughter was with me at the time. So, both my husband and my daughter knew the pharmacist said it was completely unacceptable for me to go without the meds. That said, here it is two months later, and I am missing 3 pills again. I just got them filled 4 days ago, counting them (per my doc, some pharmacists steal meds, so you have to count them)...the count was right....so it comes down to someone in my home. The two people I love the most...my teenager and my husband....and both of them know this is dangerous for me....physically.

I know my husband likes to use marijuana, which is one of our ongoing big fights. I do not drink or use drugs, and up until 2 years ago, when I had a severe spine injury, I had no desire for them. Now, it's not a desire, but a necessity for me to stay in my skin...as in the nerve pain is so incredible that without them, I literally want to get out of my body. Even with them, I have so much pain...they see this, they know this...I am very hurt by this....someone puts me in danger so they can either sell my meds to get some pot....or so they can take them to have a little fun. Either way, it's unacceptable, and I want out of my own house.

I think I am going to make both of them take a lie detector test so I can figure out who did this. My husband does not want me to leave him, and he says he's up for the lie test....that said, he has also admitted to stealing money out of my wallet to buy pot, so both of them are on my radar. My daughter says all her friends smoke and even made a comment to me once about when she smokes (she said she doesn't smoke alone like my husband does). This whole thing is sick. My husband is no example to my child, and my child is a typical rebellious teen who, at this time, I can't influence enough to demonstrate what a stupid move it is for her to flirt with drugs. She's a straight A kid and will graduate early...she is so smart and has such a promising future....but both of them.....so stupid. What is it about pot or getting high. I think the worst is, in the back of my mind, I think they think I am "lucky" to be "high" all the time, but I am not "high" all the time...I am adapted to my meds, and believe me...I'd trade all the meds for relief from the pain ...and then some. It's no picnic to wake up in pain, go to bed in pain, and even wake up in my sleep because I am having a severe episode of pain.
This issue, having cropped up in the past two months is literally destroying my peace of mind and security in my own home. I want to leave, because I am so offended that someone here is putting me at risk. I am also determined to get to the bottom of this.

I see there isn't much advice on the subject, as I am searching this site as well as others, and we're all in the same boat...without the paddle we are looking for.

Sep 01, 2014
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Lock Box
by: Anonymous

I finally had to lock them up.
I had to buy a lock box, when I hid my pain meds in the bottom of a box of tampons. I got home from work and they were gone. I have no idea how he sniffs them out, but it's sick. He eats them like candy. When I need mine, they are gone.
I also think that he is now bipolar from taking pain meds for 10 years. I called his doctor and received no help. I'm on my own with this.

Aug 07, 2014
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Mine does it too!
by: Anonymous

I understand , I have gone through every single possible hiding place , it doesn't matter, he always finds them! When I leave for even for thirty minutes , then I go check just to see, he has found them like a tracker! I'm so sick of it! I just want him to quit ! He's like a bloodhound , he runs out of his within days , who knows how ? I feel like I'm going to have a heart attack as well from being so frustrated with it! All the lies are ridiculous as well ! I don't even take many , maybe a half a day at the MOST for shoulder pain! Mine would last probably three months if he'd keep his hands off! I just don't know what to do or where else to hide them, even gone as far as zip lock bags with no bottle inside socks , ect., even outside ! Please help. Also trying to hide the entire situation and his addiction from our three children who are under age 12! And also he WILL admit it BUT I guess he's like "oh well what's she gonna do ?" Because he keeps getting away with it, you know? Feel I need anxiety meds just to deal with his crap!!!!ps we've been married 8 years and he was clean only two years out of 8! I keep thinking he will want to change but looks like no end in sight!

Mar 21, 2014
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my husband is bribing ever one that he can
by: janice

And me he takes from me he lies to me
We never have Any money for are for
Bills I till him to live and says he can't
He is pills he gets them off of the street
I would like to out of this

Jan 19, 2014
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Crazy about you
by: Anonymous

After a couple of years of thinking I was somehow getting rid of 90 pills in a week somehow or another I am just about to the point of being fed up. I get my meds and dole out a weeks worth and hide the bottle, I only take from the weeks worth and when I go to get the others there are many, many missing. My husband, swears he knows nothing about it that somehow I am sleepwalking and either destroying the pills or eating them. I am so tire of being without my pain pills for most of the month. The thing is you can tell when he is taking them. He's happy and talkative. But when he isn't totally non responsive. He has his own pain medication and he somehow takes it all in a week. Leaving him miserable, and me miserable the rest of the month. He will offer me some of his because he knows I have somehow misplaced my prescription I have tried locks boxes and and splitting up the prescription and hiding them around the house, but he always finds most of them. When he is not at home, ie out of town, no pills go missing. I am at wits end. The only thing I can do now is hide the bottle at a friends house and take the weeks worth and hide them on my person. It is the only way he cant find them. I know he is not stupid. But if he can convince me I am the one that ate 100 pills in three days he doesn't seem to mind that It makes me feel crazy. He is just an addict that is the way it is. Cant change that. Eventually it will come to light. In the mean time I keep him thinking I just don't know how they disappear. He likes that idea. So, I have them on my person 24/7. Otherwise I will lose them in a week or two.

Jun 24, 2013
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my husband takes my pain meds
by: Anonymous

I am also having the same problem my husband is taking my meds I suffer from a very painful condition and have a hole in my spine I noticed that my meds were always short sometimes a full two weeks or more leaving me in pain and bad withdrawal I just don't know what to do anymore if he knows I have them he makes my life hell untill he gets them please help with advice

Jan 04, 2013
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terrible
by: Anonymous

this is sad and disgusting. My adult son does this also.Mostly sad for the ones that suffer mental anguish of how their pills are "dissapearing" and feel like they are going crazy. But to know they do not care is worse. I do not know what to do. I have confronted him after finding my empty pill bottles under his mattress and he says he is confused, doesnt know how it happened. There should be a law that allows parents to legally force their mentally ill adult child to be admitted to get treatment. It does not help that he is a pathological liar and this is a mental problem. sickening.

Jul 10, 2012
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I Can't Hide My Pain Meds From My Adult Son
by: Anonymous

I have a son who is living with me and he is going to be 32 years old soon.. He steals my morphine every time he gets a chance. Ive had numerous types of safes and he's broke into them. I had 2 combination safes and one of them had a key back up. I even have a gun safe, and I keep a small brinks key safe inside the gun safe. Also I keep my purse inside the gun safe and my wallet is inside a Bible safe inside the gun safe.

He still manages to get into everything. I wear the keys inside my bra day and night pinned with a safety pin. It is ridiculous how I have to do in my own home. A few days ago he stole over %300. and 7 pills and he is denying that it was him. No one is ever here other than my pets. So I guess the dogs or the cat did it.

He has got me so furious that soon this stress will eventually cause me to have a stroke or heart attack. The doctors have had to up the dosage of my meds since my son came back home. He was in prison for almost 2 years, and it was the most peaceful time I had. I hate to admit it but looking back, it was.

I am Bi-Polar myself, but I don't steal from people and I don't abuse my pain medication. I manage my pain like prescribed. I am managing my Bi-polar and don't have manic ups and downs. It's a wonder with all the stress I have on me. If anyone can tell me how to hide my morphine from him I would appreciate it. I can't admit to the doctor that this is happening or they will quit prescribing to me because I am unable to control my medicine.

So I understand exactly what you are feeling about your husbands problem. It's hard to deal with. My son is constantly stealing everything I own. I can't save any money, he steals it every time and I am on disability and SSI doesn't get me far each month. I am lucky to pay my bills.

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