Grown son will not let parents see their 7 year old grandson who only lives 4 miles away.


(Jacksonville)

When my only grandchild turned 7...my son stopped us from seeing him or letting him visit. He also stopped him from seeing all other relatives at the same time.

My son and I had an argument about my grandson continuing music lessons. Maybe I said some things that I shouldn't have said but I have apologized. I wanted him to continue music and my grandson liked the music lessons but my son made him quit. Money for the lessons was not the issue. Also the grandson was coming to our house about once a week and my son said said some kid in neighborhood behaved disrespectfully to my grandson and never let him come to our house again. My grandson had no other friends he could play with and loved playing with the other kids.

My son does everything with him and manages everything the child does. My grandchild does have a loving mother who works a lot. My son has always taken care of my grandchild and does not have a job but goes to school. Me and everybody in family thinks that our son wants to be the only one in our grandchild's life and is jealous maybe of the grandchild loving us. It makes me feel like I am a bad person and I have never been anything but loving and the same with the rest of the family.

My son will not answer phone or door. At Christmas he did let us come over and give presents to grandchild but he ignored us basically in the same room with us. My sweet daughter in law says he is fine with her and our grandchild. I never thought this would happen in this family and I am heart broken. He has always not been very free for grandchild to visit but at least we could see him some. What is my son's problem? Depression maybe...but what can I do if he want speak to me.

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Feb 17, 2017
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Please help my grand daughter taken fro me by meth addict parent
by: Robin

I basically raised my now 17 month old grand daughter until her dad who is a meth addict took her away and my daughter is enabling him and allowing it. We live in Oklahoma. He is also an illegal mexican immigrant. He took her away because I spoke up about his meth use.

Jan 16, 2017
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One caveat...
by: Don

Generally speaking Mary is correct, but with one caveat... If you live in the USA many states have laws that protect the rights of grandparents to see their grandchildren.

This next part requires that I make a clear disclaimer: I am NOT a lawyer and I am not a legal expert...

Having said that, in my humble opinion to legally pursue your grandparents rights should be a very last resort because it is like a declaration of war. Things could get unnecessarily messy and hurtful to the extent that it does more harm than good.

Seek legal advice and know that you may have rights regarding your grandchildren. But weigh the costs and benefits, especially to the children, before taking action if you must.

Sorry for your situation and I wish you the best,
Don Carter

Jan 16, 2017
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Your Grandson
by: Mary

I know how strong the love for a grandchild is, I have two of my own and its a love like no other. I feel your pain, and its just not right for your son to be keeping your grandson away from you. His son is missing out on this wonderful relationship between grandkid and grandparents. It sound like your son is just being selfish, for some reason. I don't think there is anything you can do about it, unfortunately. Unless there is abuse or danger going on, we grandparents are pretty much at the mercy of our children when it comes to their children. When your grandson grows up, hopefully you will be able to make up for missed time with him. If I were in your shoes, I would never give up, I would stay in contact as much as possible, even the littlest gift of chat to your grandson will let him know that his grandmother loves him.

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