Friend envious and ungrateful behaviour
(Melbourne , Australia )
I started up a not for profit arts org for like-minded artists to earn income from the sale of their work and from teaching .
My friend has been a major part of this social enterprise as in producing art work and sharing rented studio space. Her behaviour over the past three years has become overwhelming and unbearable . I only just realised what she has been doing to me . That is she has turned into a 'gollum ' character ( Lord of the Rings ) - everything she must touch , claim , envies , she resents other peoples successes , trusts no one. I have been cocooing her behaviour , as she is bi polar and a drug addict - dope , 'ex', heroin- Yet I back her as I see her as a great artist who needs help.
I have tried to nurture and ignore her scary irrational and abusive behaviours , either she is sick, down , depressed or surrounded by family dramas and or / abusive men - one of whom threatened me .Despite 2 Restraining orders against her ex lover , she'll dredge him up when things are bad like her evil monkey.
All these things have impacted on the organisation and I sense many psychic attacks from her , especially when new members join - they all leave.
I realise I have been enabling this beheaviour . I have been worried about how she would feel if I did this or that or the other. I have a fabulous husband and 3 very successful daughters who all tell me is is trouble.
I now see the errors of my ways. I have not spoken to her for 3 weeks - as we had a major falling out over an exhibition. I am so addicted to 'helping' her that I have thoughts of calling her, or giving her another chance (which she will probably just abuse again with her foul and angry outburts)
So I need help to get this over with. I am quite scared as she has criminal connections. I don't know how to close the relationship down as eventually she will have to collect her gear and move out of the studio and I fear her even though I am strong . I don't mean her any harm.
I feel like she will blame me for everything yet when I add up all the opportunities that have come to her via the NFP org, her victoroes - that I owe her zero. How do I end this 'friendship'
any help much appreciated.