Feelings and Emotions

by S
(Missouri)

When I get overwhelmed like you are describing, I take my relaxation tapes I've received in previous times and listen to them. It really helps to center me and relax me to the point I can think again. Then I can turn everything over to God. He is the One I turn to when I have things too huge for me to handle until I can function again.

I wish you peace and good will. God is waiting for you to ask Him to help you. He knows your pain.

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Dec 22, 2009
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Good Book
by: S

I'm reading a book entitled: "Prayer, Faith, and Healing: Cure Your Body, Heal Your Mind, and Restore Your Soul" by Kenneth Winston Caine and Brian Paul Kaufman.

Good Read!!!

Dec 21, 2009
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No worries :)
by: mxkx

Thank you. I understand that you did not mean it to be harsh. I have faced a lot of judgment in the past about this subject, especially when I chose to leave that religion (according to them I was choosing not to listen to God as well!). So it's a really sensitive issue for me. I just wanted to point out that there are many people that have gone through similar experiences and it's probably best that these people clear the confusion first on who God is before they even attempt to go to God. Co-dependents especially have a habit of putting other people in God's place.

Dec 21, 2009
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It was never a choice to begin with!
by: S

I'm sorry I caused you undue pain, MxKx. You are still in my prayers for what you have had to endure. It can't have been easy for you. I sincerely hope you find peace.

Dec 16, 2009
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A Reminder...
by: Don Carter

Hi everyone, I just want to put it out there that it's easy to misinterpret posts when there are no auditory or visual inputs as there are in face-to-face communications -- only the written word. (Heck, I get myself in trouble sometimes even when it IS face-to-face!)

I'm sure everyone who posted here has the best of intentions. Let's all just be as careful as we can as we share our thoughts and opinions.

And just so it's known, I can and will delete any posts that are not of the well-intentioned variety. I will do everything possible to protect and promote an atmosphere of emotional safety in these forums.

Thanks,
Don

Dec 16, 2009
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It was never a choice to begin with!
by: mxkx

It's hard to "choose" not to listen to God when you don't know what He sounds like in the first place. I never said I chose not to listen to Him, just that in the beginning phase of recovery and before that I didn't know which voice to listen to.

I was raised in a cult that utilized mind control techniques to keep members from questioning the authority of the leaders to interpret God's word. Some of my earliest memories are of being told not to trust anything that went on in my head that in any way conflicted with what the leaders said because anything conflicting was of the devil.

Now I know the purpose of that was to keep me from developing a neural map and sense of self that was different from what they wanted it to be, but it wasn't until I got in to this that I started realizing that and started figuring out what voice was His.

Please do not make judgmental statements like I "chose" not to listen to God when you do not know personally where I am coming from.

Dec 16, 2009
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Turning it over
by: S

I still have days when I forget to let God have it and leave it with Him. I am definitely a "work in progress" when it comes to COMPLETELY turning it over, but I'm making progress. :)

Dec 16, 2009
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Turning it over
by: godbear

I usually have to run into a brick wall several times, getting bloody in the process, before I even REMEMBER there is a Higher Power to turn things over too. Yet, every time I do turn things over, they are always resolved in a most favorable way. Sometimes this seems to be occur instantly, and sometimes it takes a while. I am working on remembering early on in a difficult situation that I can turn it over.

Another impediment to to allowing a Higher Power to clean up my messes is that I turn it over, then take it back. I am working on learning to turn it over, let go and leave it alone. My recovery is a process that takes time. I am so grateful that life is so more worth living now. I have made wonderful progress. I know that there is still a ways to go. But now I know it can be done.

With each new skill I practice, my growth, confidence and level of joy increases. My journey is no longer one of pain and dread. Now it is an exciting, life embracing path. The more I love myself, the more I love myself.

Please know that you are a child of the Universe, born to be happy, curious, creative, loving, and free. You are in the process of claiming your birthright. Good On You!

Dec 16, 2009
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RE: I believe it's more complicated than that
by: S

I'm sorry to hear you chose to not listen to God anymore. You are in my prayers.

It is a complicated situation. That is why I choose to listen to God. I also listen to therapists and friends. I use tools I've been given to help me through the maze of emotions and feelings. However, I rely heavily on my faith. It is when I get "out of control" that I rely on God to help me find peace through prayer and meditation so I can start again on my journey to recovery.


Dec 16, 2009
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I believe it's more complicated than that
by: mxkx

Some of us do not know HOW to turn things over to God. Personally I learned a long time ago how to stop listening to His voice because it conflicted with what I was being told. There's other issues as well that are too many to list. Either way, this works well for someone that has gotten to a certain point in their recovery where they have learned which voice is God's again, but it can be very dangerous advice to someone that is still unaware of how to listen to Him. They can very easily confuse voices such as their Inner Critic for His voice and lead themselves down a path of self destruction that will later get blamed on God because they thought they were listening to Him. There's also the issue of how vague the "turn it over to God" advice really is. Some people may mistake this for pushing their emotions and problems in to the back of their minds and this is the least healthiest thing they can do with this stuff and one of the primary ways they have gotten to this point in the first place.

Most importantly though I believe that we have to learn how to listen to ourselves and deal with our own emotions before we can start working on listening to God and letting Him deal with them. If one does not know their self how can they possibly know God? "For everything there is a season"... and that includes faith in God fixing our problems. For example, a codependent already depends on everyone else to take charge and fix their problems. Instructing them to rely on God to do it makes the problem worse instead of better.

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