enabling my daughter has only hurt her. how can I stop ?
21 year old daughter has always been a spOiled brat..she has 2 married siblings who have children..the 21 yr old is jealous of any attention we give the others.always demands more BC " we don't love her as m ch as the others" out of guilt ( unfounded) we continue to give. She has been in trouble multiple times and we are constantly pulling strings to keep her out of trouble..from fighting in school to not being able to keep a job, to very bad relationships..she's never been able to have a girlfriend without so much drama it is an ongoing battle with this child who we love and adore she doesn't think anything she does is wrong and no matter what she does we should continue to give her more to prove our love.I have reached a point that I cannot do this anymore she is verbally abusive to myself and her father she will not be responsible in the house for chores , groceries ,anything..all we ask of her is to make her car payment and clean up after herself. she is a miserable person you cannot have a conversation with air her about anything because she claims you were in her business! because of some of her relationships they'll all has been involved and brought to our doorstep yet she tells us it is none of our business she will jump and run away like a little girl only to come back and want to live here again.she is so depressed all she does is sleep when she is not at work or out causing drama. we have tried talking to her doctors about getting her on anti depressants but he ask her if she's depressed and she says no I am at the end of my rope I love her so much I want to try tough love and tell her to get out and try life on her own if she does not like it here but I cannot stand the thought that she would be on the street. help!